Fear of being on my own for the rest of my life (:

[Bigboyuk]

Hi folks this is so real for me and I don't like the way I feel, So any one else either going through this now or has done in the past? It's pretty scary right now ATB

[Carnation]

Yes, I have BB. But, never give up hope.

[Catherine S]

There's a lid for every teapot Dave. Have faith

Cath x

[Elen]

Dave I have been there, but have gotten over it to a certain extent, mainly cause I cannot work out an alternative behaviour.

I think that I get too intense at times and way to needy and that scares people off, not that I blame them.

Am I happy, in some respects yes, but others no.

Must admit I do look at some people in relationships and wonder how can you get there but I can't, but then to be fair we never know how things are behind closed doors, and I am sure that there are many people in relationships that are truly miserable.

[Bigboyuk]

Yes, I have BB. But, never give up hope.

I have very nearly Carnation but thx ATB

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There's a lid for every teapot Dave. Have faith

Cath x

Cath I like you the way you said that Thx ATB

[Catherine S]

Not much of a consolation Dave, but I'll be in Stafford on Friday April 27th, so could meet you for a coffee? My train gets in from Crewe around 1pm lunchtime and i'm gonna have a wander around town until I head off to my daughter's when she finishes work. Stafford park is opposite the station too, and is a really nice place. PM me if you prefer to.

Cath ☺

[Elen]

There's a lid for every teapot Dave. Have faith

Cath x

Godd if makes you feel better Dave, to me it is a platitude and I have been around too long to believe it for a min.

[Bigboyuk]

Dave I have been there, but have gotten over it to a certain extent, mainly cause I cannot work out an alternative behaviour.

I think that I get too intense at times and way to needy and that scares people off, not that I blame them.

Am I happy, in some respects yes, but others no.

Must admit I do look at some people in relationships and wonder how can you get there but I can't, but then to be fair we never know how things are behind closed doors, and I am sure that there are many people in relationships that are truly miserable.

So is there a alternative behaviour that you may have not thought about? Are you still on your own now? Yes I think you are right Elen when you are clingy and needy and Iam the same I think it does scare people, but on the other hand it wouldn't scare me away if I thought some one was lonely either. Oh same here it's not just relationships it's friends too seeing people when the weather is nice and people in 2's or small groups are enjoying a drink together now that does get to me and I think why cant that be me, hope that makes sense? Thx ATB

[Catherine S]

I was just trying to make him feel better elen that's all. I found my lid at age 54, but it's possible at any age.

[Bigboyuk]

Not much of a consolation Dave, but I'll be in Stafford on Friday April 27th, so could meet you for a coffee? My train gets in from Crewe around 1pm lunchtime and i'm gonna have a wander around town until I head off to my daughter's when she finishes work. Stafford park is opposite the station too, and is a really nice place. PM me if you prefer to.

Cath ☺

Cath it's music to my ears and sounds good. I will pm in a bit thx ATB

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Godd if makes you feel better Dave, to me it is a platitude and I have been around too long to believe it for a min.

But it's true Elen so you have given up hope then, you sound a really caring person ATB

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I was just trying to make him feel better elen that's all. I found my lid at age 54, but it's possible at any age.

Seriously Cath that does fill me with hope for which I am greatfulATB