Re: I am so unhappy
Is this the first time you've heard about his dreams, or is this something you've both talked about over the 10 years you've been together? If this has been just sprung on you recently then you need more time to decide whether to go or to stay. But if you've always known about his wishes to move away, have you agreed to it in the past and now changed your mind? That would perhaps explain his behaviour, but at the end of the day it's your life and as others have said, you have to take the time to make your decision.
I met my husband in 2006 and moved to Germany to live with him in 2007. My children had all left home and I had 2 grandchildren under 10 at that time. I was really homesick and flew back often to see them. We came back to UK 2010 but my husband was made redundant at the end of 2012 so back to Germany we went for his new job. We returned last year as we are now both retired and are living in Wales near to my elderly mum.
I'm happy to be back permenantly, but my husband's family live in Germany as does his one yr old grandson. So there's no simple answer, unless we end tge marriage and he returns to his family while I stay here with mine. It's caused alot of stress and resentment and heartache over the years so I can relate to your stress at the moment.
What helped me to cope was that my children were fine about me living in Germany but it was my own feelings of being away from them that stressed me the most. I'm not sure how it would've worked out if they hadn't wanted me to leave.
I hope you can get it all sorted out in a way that keeps you all happy. Good luck.
Best wishes
Cath ☺ x
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