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    I have been single for 5 years now and I took a plunge and decided to go on a dating website to try to meet someone. I was speaking to this guy who sounds great, we had a lot of similar interests and after speaking for a couple of weeks by text he asked me out on a date. I really wanted to go for it but my anxiety has completely taken over me in recent weeks and I had to say no. I felt like a complete idiot because I've had to be honest and tell him what I'm going through and just explained it's not fair to him, I don't know how I'm going to feel on the day, I don't want to have to cancel etc.

    I don't just have social anxiety. I also have a bit of agoraphobia & hypochondria and I can't even go to work lately without having a panic attack so how can I go on a first date?!

    I'm gutted and I wish I could have found the strength to take the opportunity and have just gone for it, and now I feel like a plonker and he probably thinks I'm lying lol.

    I think I need to work on myself and my confidence a bit more first and then I really need to start taking these chances. Everyone gets nerves it's understandable I just need to learn to control mine. I'd hate to have a full blown panic attack before or during a date especially when I'm not close to home or with a friend.

    How do you guys cope with dating with anxiety/panic disorder? I've only been in one relationship before, it lasts 4 years, ended pretty badly and I've been single ever since I'd like to meet someone but it just seems so difficult right now!

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    Re: Dating With Anxiety

    Hi Personally for now I would concerntraiting on making a circle of understanding friends much less complicated than having a relationship. I know I am not ready for one so am doing just that it's on the back burner for now and getting to know new people as friends is far easier (to me) than getting a relationship. It's all down to what you are after. HTH ATB
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    In a similar situation as you I've talked to a few people but when it actually comes to meeting up the anxiety takes over lol.

    On the few occasions I did manage to take a girl out it was in my home town so I knew my surroundings so it wasn't so bad so maybe if you ask to meet him more local to you it might be easier

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    I get very bad anxiety and panic attacks every day and I had to stop work as it's really hard to cope with. I'm trying so hard to not go down the tablet route because of side effects but it's really hard! Going out in busy places I hate and try to avoid.

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    Re: Dating With Anxiety

    Quote Originally Posted by Hayley2 View Post
    I get very bad anxiety and panic attacks every day and I had to stop work as it's really hard to cope with. I'm trying so hard to not go down the tablet route because of side effects but it's really hard! Going out in busy places I hate and try to avoid.
    Hi Well you don't have to go down the meds route you could try therapy instead ATB
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    Hello Graceski! I am feeling bad for your situation. In my opinion, you needed to tell the truth to this guy and try to deal with this. Don't let your panic control your life, bro. Another way to solve your issue is using video chat on dating websites. This site provides the video chat option https://shagbook.com so you can feel more comfortable with video connection and win against your panic by speaking with real people and step by step moving to a real-life date. I hope you will take over your panic attacks!
    Last edited by Chrisorg; 01-10-21 at 12:42.

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