Re: Have I got rectal cancer?
Nicely put, Terry.
I'm not a mod, therefore I don't particularly see it as any of my business whether or not a thread is closed. Do I think there's hope for Toby? I think there's hope for everyone, although my gut instinct is that this thread offers an artificial safety net that prevents him reaching a point where he's motivated to make the life changes he needs to feel better. I've seen similar with a young work colleague, who leads an exceptionally sheltered and cosseted life that I worry will cost him a fulfilling future as an adult.
It's sad, but past a certain point it isn't my problem because as Terry says, it's a waste of much needed mental energy to worry about things we can't influence directly.
All this said, I feel kind of a jerk for talking about Toby on this thread and I'd love it if he could come in, give his opinions and take back ownership. He's the one in this situation, after all.
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