Re: Struggling with secondary tokophobia (pregnancy fear)
I understand the obsessive fear, and good on you for not wanting to play into it!
Something that helped me when I was freaking out would be to tell myself firmly that I was being irrational and then "walking" away from the problem (ie finding a way to distract myself). So in your situation, I would say to myself (often out loud), "This is ridiculous, I am NOT pregnant" and then go for a walk, watch your favorite show, play with your little girl. Anything to get your mind off of it.
I realize your husband had a vasectomy, but have you entertained any sort of alternative forms of birth control in addition to that for a little while just to give you peace of mind?
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