I have found this website and I am desperately concerned for my 9 year old daughter. Off and on since my daughter was around 2 she has gone through phases of a fear of going places and getting very upset and worked up prior to the event/place and when she is finally there seems to be ok and would have a good time. I at the time put this down to age and part of growing up and being left without mummy. However lately in the past year things have become more serious. She sees her dad every 2 weeks and is very regular with him loves him to pieces. When going to her Dad's or a friends or even a family friend, the evening before she becomes very upset is constantly asking what time is she going what time will she back and it needs to be specific. Come the morning she complains of having tummy aches/crams she often has diorrea. She becomes hysterical at some points. When I ask her why she just says ' i don't know why, I want to go but...and then she can't explain it any further. I believe that she genuinely cannot explain it. There was also an icident recently. She was very moody, quiet tearful and during these days she walked around continuously with a pencil case full of pens and she spent the whole 2 days walking round with it and constantly reshaping them so that they were perfectly aligned. She misbehaved and I said to her that if she did it agin her pens would be taken away. She did it again and I took her pencil case and I cannot explain to the full effect of her reaction but she screamed in absolute terror at me not because I had taken them but because i had moved them out of alignment. Her eyes and her face I will never forget to be totally honest she frightened me. Her reaction was totally overreactive. I am sorry that this has turned into a long one but I honestly don't know what to do. I feel on one hand that I may be blowing things out of proportion but in my heart I know that this is not just an age thing and not just a case of I don't want to go. Any advice greatly appreciated...