Dirty laundry germs

[phil06]

The reality is I have lived here a year now she visits often how much has she touched the bin maybe loads? It worries me most when I witness it as I believe it’s forever contaminated?

[Elen]

Yep, back to the circle of stating a scenario and asking what to do. The answer is in lots of pages where many have already posted. And when I see someone looking for a completely tailored reply with their own event that matches completely, often an impossibility, I think it's again about perfectionism and seeking reassurance just as many a repetitive poster suggests "anyone else" to get just that one more, then on it goes.

Phil needs to reconsider what he views as facts. His solipsism worries are certainly not based on facts, they are very much based on uncertainty and being unable to accept it.

Read these:

https://www.psychologytools.com/prof...perfectionism/
https://www.psychologytools.com/othe...perfectionism/
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Res.../Perfectionism

You are not dealing with reality, please read the above links

[phil06]

You are not dealing with reality, please read the above links

My door handle is ruined the door was already contaminated but now she touched the wheelie bin those germs have spread when I lock up and touch anything those bin and toilet germs are there

[pulisa]

No they just don’t give a crap about touching bins I lived with her for years. They touched the bin at there house and came here. My worry is she touched the door handle on the way out so my door handle could be dirty I may have to leave via the back door for wedding and stag night?

So she told you that she touched the bin at her house before coming to you?

I take it you are dreading your stag night and wedding?

[Fishmanpa]

C'mon Phil. This is the SSDD. Seek real life professional help. It's more important than travel.

Positive thoughts

[Elen]

My door handle is ruined the door was already contaminated but now she touched the wheelie bin those germs have spread when I lock up and touch anything those bin and toilet germs are there

None of this is reality, this is your false thoughts

[Carys]

No they just don’t give a crap about touching bins

....as it should be!

[phil06]

So she told you that she touched the bin at her house before coming to you?

I take it you are dreading your stag night and wedding?

No I was there to see her touching the wheelie bin

[Fishmanpa]

No I was there to see her touching the wheelie bin

It only matters to you There's nothing anyone can say here or on any other forum to help you that hasn't already been said Phil. If 13 years of posts and advice haven't helped then..... Seek real life professional help!

Positive thoughts

[phil06]

It only matters to you There's nothing anyone can say here or on any other forum to help you that hasn't already been said Phil. If 13 years of posts and advice haven't helped then..... Seek real life professional help!

Positive thoughts

I have had CBT over 8 seasons I talked about these issues and the reality is I am still suffering. Yes I could seek further help maybe when I can afford to but that doesn’t guarantee I will stop worrying.