I can't help thinking that a different therapist might have been a better choice, if Phil wants to make a concerted effort.
I can't help thinking that a different therapist might have been a better choice, if Phil wants to make a concerted effort.
OR maybe if he really listens and follows advice this time, with the same therapist? Hard to know isn't it BlueI...I mean she refused to take him on for the second time, but has agreed this time ?!
I didn't realise she'd refused in the past.
Well, I might be slightly wrong, but as I recall......he had a set of sessions with her (the first) some time ago. That 'didn't worked', so he asked for another set of sessions - Phil was bemused about why she wouldn't see him I recall from the time. She made some excuses, but then eventually did see him. SO, this is the third time ? Phil can explain.
It seems to me as if this therapist is out of her depth but is prepared to take Phil's money. It would be interesting to know what her qualifications are and whether she has any areas she specialises in. If she refused to see Phil because she realised that his issues were too complex for her to treat last time then it is pretty pointless and unfair to take him on again, in my opinion.
My thinking is if I go back to see her it might work out cheaper than starting with a new therapist and needing 10-15 new sessions where as she knows my story so maybe 2-3 take it from there. Some therapists I met In the past never done proper Cbt she used workbooks and she tries different approaches. I believe if I never seen her last time the front door would have been replaced the reason is I had window sales men round and I was ready to book.
Problem is I use to see her and feel fine after a session but I would go and do a compulsion or replace something soon after. However that stopped after my compulsions failed.
So what does she need to help with?
*The believing something is forever contaminated
*The replacing urge I still get.
*Avoidance behaviour.
*My fear of buying from some shops like my work or other shops that I developed a fear of with my dirty laundry and toilet germs these avoidances have got worse so I need help for it.
The reality is the belief something is forever contaminated I may not be able to shift that but I might be able to halt the urge to replace these items
She is trained on CBT, counselling and mindfulness
Well, you've thought it all through Phil, fair play.
Then you weren't following her advice. If this is going to work Phil you are going to need to ACT on the advice she gives you, the exercises to follow and really focus on the strategies she gives you. You really have to commit to this, no matter how painful or difficult at the time, this will take willpower and effort, which I think you've lacked in the past.Problem is I use to see her and feel fine after a session but I would go and do a compulsion or replace something soon after.
When do you start ?
The risk is I am replacing the handle I ordered it today but the issue is the germs have spread to the blind chord the phone the furniture everything touched after that door handle so I fear I may never feel clean again which is awful to feel that way.
But why did I replace the door handle? I am using elbows to open it at the moment so atleast I will once again use my hands.
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