The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep. - Robert Frost
You never mention your wife - does she have anything to do with all of this ?
Nicola
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This is true. Just because your wife doesn't mind putting your needs first, it doesn't mean she should always have to. Loving somebody means compromise; we all do things we'd ideally rather not to make the people we care about happy.
Ah we are into 'empathy' territory here guys.....this might not go well.
Phil, honestly, I know you try and control what we ask about, and then when it moves in a direction you aren't happy with, you shut it down. Your wife IS relevant entirely to this thread and that is why people are bringing her up time and time again, to try and get you to make slightly different considerations when making choices.
Quoted from - https://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/life-is-what-happens-to-you-while-youre-busy-making-other-plans/“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
This famous saying from John Lennon reflects a paradox in our lives. Many of us would like to have a peaceful ride, enjoy the present moment, yet we can’t help but make future plans so we feel secure, or we spend time digging on past hurts. Lennon doesn’t say we shouldn’t make plans, but that the true experience of being alive is beyond those plans, and “happens” to us.
At first view, this seems to negate any personal will, since the right answer to life would be to embrace it instead of trying to direct it, but it might just be that free will should be redirected from the content of our lives to its approach: Instead of using our free will to decide what should come next, we’d use it to choose between ego or letting go, between a life ruled by our mind or a life in tune with a higher intelligence. For most people, this higher intelligence only seems to manifest when their life flows: important meetings happen, synchronicities lead to a new path and something mysterious seems to be pulling the strings. The willingness to not resist whatever life is putting on the road determines how long the ride will last. Then, one day, the ego-mind takes back its throne, doubt arises and the magical path vanishes. Guidance seems no longer there.
To stay on the path we must trust, live in the present, and let go of fear. In other words, behaviors we have not been taught growing up, so deconditioning is necessary. Learned behaviors are often a source of false security and self-limitation. Unfortunately, any mind work on deconditioning will only take us so far: “you cannot remove a thorn with a thorn” as the Buddhists say. The ego-mind will always fight its way to the director seat, reverting to its lower patterns as soon as it is threaten by change. To get rid of the ego is impossible, to put it as a servant of this higher intelligence is the answer.
Trust is the first step: Faith is beyond the ego-mind. By trusting something unknown, limitless and wise, you jump over the illusory self-limitations of the mind, hence opening the door to higher guidance and purpose. The place you create from is no longer the result of years of self-definition but the unlimited potential this higher intelligence has in reserve for you. So co-creation happens at a different level: not the level where your thoughts create your reality but the level where your alignment with the higher intelligence of your life allows you to receive its energy. What you manifest then is no longer the fruit of an illusion, the product of something as fleeting as the mind. You manifest from the higher intent behind your life. True purpose lies outside of the ego-mind’s grasp.
Living in the present is a necessary condition for this higher intelligence to manifest. Calling on past experiences to evaluate something only brings more mind in and ego tries to direct the game again. Wondering about the future makes us want to control it. To live in the present means to not resist life’s experiences, even the painful ones. The wisdom behind most spiritual practices is to see pain as a teacher of letting go. Whether it is the pain of sitting in meditation, of constant thinking or of emotional upheaval, the realization that these pains disappear in an awakened state of consciousness is a perfect training ground for daily life.
As we develop this simple awareness of the present moment and the willingness to experience life without the veil of mind, our fears evaporate. We go from the realm of ego to the realm of being, we surrender to the music and we become the dance. Life happens.
Sophie Rose is a spiritual counselor and the author of The Way of The Heart, Teachings of Jeshua and Mary Magdalene, 2012 National Indie Excellence Award Finalist. She is a contributing author of The Sacred Shift, Co-Creating your Future. Sophie is not aligned with any particular religion or tradition and has always favored a direct experience of spirituality.
Because dreams are things which you believe will make you happy. but living life and the little things that you least expect make you happy...Why would they be happy they never lived there dreams?
My Nan... she had big dreams of what she wanted in life but her life changed and she met the man of her dreams had 7 children in 8 years... lived her life to the full and life basically did a U-turn to her dreams BUT did she regret her life? .... absolutely not. Did she still have the dreams?..... yes of course she did. Was she happy in life? - Absolutely in the end she wouldn't change her life and how she didn't follow her dreams.
If she had put loads of pressure on herself to follow those dreams then the rest of her life wouldn't have happened, all the love and happiness, the laughs...... She didn't let her dreams overtake her life to the cost of actually living her life and being happy.
Are you happy at the minute? while you are pursuing your dreams??? nope, I thought not.... you have to live your life while you pursue your dreams... and if things change then so be it..no one is saying you can't have dreams in life but there is no point being miserable trying to make your plans happen.... Just think of all of the amazing things that you are missing out on because you are too concentrated on what you think you want out of life....
Life is too short to not make the most of every minute
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