Various Health Fears

[MrLurcher]

Thanks for your replies both, I'm trying really hard not to spiral....but unfortunately we had some terrible news this morning.

WARNING. Please don't read on if easily triggered.

My uncle has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We are beside ourselves. He has a history of not looking after himself - almost to the point of self neglect, so when he began losing weight months ago, we assumed it was down to mental health because of lockdown, and he has been very depressed since my grandmother (his mother) died in December. But like I said above he had some bad bloods weeks ago, and he turned yellow before being admitted to hospital.

However after visiting his house this week for the first time in 5 months to clean up, it was alarming to see all the meds he'd been taking - laxatives, immodiums, pain killers, anti-acids. I suspected he may be ill in someway, but desperately hoped it wasn't that specific cancer. I had an older colleague who died from it, and I could see some resemblance in the symptoms within my uncle.

I'd really appreciate some advice from people who have HA, and who's close relative has had cancer. Because as much as I know that I need to be there for my uncle, father and family, and I 100% will be, I'm absolutely petrified about this. He's only 61.

[BlueIris]

I'm so very sorry, Mr. L. Not the expert here, but I've got your back if you need to vent or want a listening ear.

[pulisa]

Of course you are petrified, Mr L..and of course having HA will make things so much worse in terms of your own potential to spiral but you have to be really strong and discipline yourself not to...because your family will need you to be entirely focused on supporting your Uncle.

You must talk about your fears on here because we all understand but your family won't. Your poor Uncle must have been in so much pain and I only hope that he can be made more comfortable now that he has a diagnosis. It's awful news for you all.

My mother had cancer and I was terrified. I know I could have been more supportive but I wasn't and it's something I really regret. There are no self help books on this one and we can only try to cope as best we can. You sound as though you will be there for your Uncle, Mr L..It will be very hard for you but you won't let him or anyone down.

[Scass]

I’m sorry about your uncle Mr L, I hope he’s being well looked after in hospital.

I can see how this would flare up your HA. The worry over your job and uncle is the catalyst and the mole (to be honest it could be any health related symptom) is the trigger.


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[MrLurcher]

Thanks for your replies, we still dont have the official prognosis for my uncle. Its been over a week since diagnosis, so its frustrating the hospital are taking so long over what is an urgent situation. I think theyre liaising with another hospital where they have a specialist centre for this cancer.

Ashamed to admit my anxiety has sky rocketed. Been having terrible bowel and stomach issues.

But this morning something scary happened. I woke up smelling burnt toast, and went down stairs only to see my partner hadnt used the toaster. Im freaking out now that this is a stroke or brain tumour symptom as that’s well known......

[MrLurcher]

Anyone out there? The smell is still lingering. Very concerned now. Its been a while now since I’ve felt this panicky about a symptom.

[BlueIris]

I'm here. Would you forgive me if I said you were being ridiculous again? The burnt toast thing is a cliche that's almost never a big deal.

Besides, chances are it was just somebody burning something nearby.

[MrLurcher]

Thanks BI. Well considering I was in the bedroom and my partner couldnt smell anything, I dont think it was external. The only other thing is that my sinuses have become a little bit stuffy, but I cant imagine it being that.

How are you doing?

[BlueIris]

My own health anxiety's been tweaking madly, I've spent the weekend trying to keep myself off Google. Other half had a scab on his nose this morning which I assumed was melanoma, but I just about managed not to mention this to him

You'll be okay, it's a tough time for you so it's entirely understandable that you're struggling at the moment.

[MrLurcher]

Anyone got any advice for me on this.

Past 4-5 days I've developed a slightly swollen very painful upper corner of my eyelid, along my eyelashes in my right eye. The corner of my eye has been itchy for a while, but sat/sun it started getting quite painful, hurting to blink etc. There's not much skin redness, but inside is quite red. i've been applying a warm compress a few times a day since yesterday morning, which only provides temporary relief.

Saw a doc this afternoon, and all he did was lift my eye lid a little, looked at it for around 5-10 seconds, and proceeded to tell me what he thought it was going to be - a chalizon cyst or something. How was that helpful?! He didn't mention a stye, which I thought it may be. There isn't an obvious lump, just around 10mm of swollen eyelid in the corner, along my eyelashes, and my eye is dropping/closing in the corner. Could it be an internal stye? But then again he didn't mention that.

He gave me some drops, but I think my eye feels even more irritated now so I've bought some eye wash from Tesco.

I don't know whether to ring NHS 111, because I've got interviews all week now, and won't have time to see a doctor, and this is still very painful still.