Re: Pushed Myself Too Far
First of all, well done you! That’s a huge amount of social and you faced up your fears. It does take a huge amount out of us to do that but I’m really glad that you had fun!
It’s tough to deal with the inner monologue when it has a bee in its bonnet. The truth is that there’s not a particular trick to get it to stop, other than the same ones we use daily. It’s just more difficult when you’ve been pushing more and wearing yourself out, because the energy reserves are already low.
Acknowledge why you’re having the thoughts, you pushed out of your comfort zone and have ran out of energy... therefore the batteries on the mute button has ran out.
Challenge them, okay so even if I made a fool of myself (which I am 99.9% percent sure you absolutely did not!) why would that mean people hate me? Surely they would just think I’m good at having fun! Also, why would they be thinking of me? - this one works well for me, most humans are painfully self absorbed... they don’t have time to be thinking of other people past or present they are focused on what they did and need to do.
And then it’s the most difficult, accept the thoughts as disordered and useless to you but that they are happening and let them go.
I often find my sleep is very disturbed when I’m most exhausted, I have often theorised it’s because my brain is active trying to work through all the new information; that these things I normally fear actually weren’t a threat after all, that I don’t need to be responding in fight or flight, that I don’t need that absolute control... and of course dread that I’m completely wrong in my assessment, and that I should panic about it now because I didn’t then.
Do you have commitments this weekend? Once the work week is completely over? If not I think naps on the sofa with the fluffy ones and a strict rule to keep those feet up is definitely needed. Self care to prove that it’s okay to relax is just as important as pushing our boundaries.
Pop me a message any time Blue, I’m always happy to chat!
Mouse.
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The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep. - Robert Frost