Birthday plans

[phil06]

Incredibly common, yes. I have two (blasted) uni degrees and I'm stuck working a hair's breadth above minimum wage, paid the same as people who haven't passed their GCSEs. Wages in my field are about 30% over what I'm currently getting, but I'm so afraid of interviews I either blow my chances with a panic attack or - if there's a presentation involved - cancel them because I can't take the fear.

When I was between 16-21 I had about ten different jobs so in the end I had no choice but to stay with one company as I had run out of places to try especially in retail when places like Woolworths were going bust. Anytime I wanted change ive just had to move stores

[phil06]

Was my post cool too PHil ? I wanna be cool like Blue.

Yes I wish I could be more relaxed about social media and hopefully I will be in the future. I do not post that much anyway but I have not taken it when my new work colleagues not adding me and these birthday plans. I have beat it in the past when I posted about going to Amsterdam but I am still not happy I did as people have a stereotypical view of it. I mean the issue is I just don’t special birthdays I spent my 30th In Paris which was nice and nobody knew it was my birthday only that Facebook had it up but you can hide your age anyway

[Elen]

Phil some people, like myself, like to keep work and personal life seperate, it does not necessarily mean that they don't like you but simply that they want to maintain a work/life balance.

[phil06]

I was going to buy his cd and put it on Facebook as a picture but even this makes me anxious. Problem is I spend hours worrying over if I should post or not. It’s times like this I wish the event was tomorrow a bit like booking a flight. One might think the actual night would cause me anxiety as someone mentioned about being nervous at parties.

I know I could just not post anything but I posted my stag night without any anxiety. I worry the photographer photos are wasted if not shared with friends. Sure I considered doing it via private message but it really is working me up. A few months ago it was a footballer but I got that one out my system.

So my question is what can I do to stop this worry? Posting causes anxiety but not posting is also worrying me. I wish there was an easier way to deal with it. I can only relate to this happening with Amsterdam and I did post it in the end but I suffered lots of worry whilst at work, showering ect, lying in bed and the same thing is happening now?

[nomorepanic]

My advice - delete your social media prescence - problem solved. Why have the hassle and stress just don't do it and delete the account.

[Fishmanpa]

My advice - delete your social media prescence - problem solved. Why have the hassle and stress just don't do it and delete the account.

Great advice... will it be followed? NOPE! To be continued....

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[phil06]

Yes I get why people will say delete the account problem solved but I don’t think that’s the solution. I would still have the not posting it atall anxiety and I would be cut off from everybody. 90% of posts won’t bother me the only issue I have had is the night out or Amsterdam. I put a post up about my partners birthday a few months ago and deleted it that’s now my anxiety seems to operate..

[pulisa]

So you fear being judged negatively and need to prove your "worth" online by posting perfect photos of holidays or celebs which you think will impress people?

Would you have much interaction with people in real life if you were to delete your social media accounts? You do sound very reliant on social media and place a great deal of importance on people's responses/reactions.

[BlueIris]

Exactly, Pulisa.

Phil, what's so important about the opinions of people you have little to no contact with?

[Fishmanpa]

Exactly, Pulisa.

Phil, what's so important about the opinions of people you have little to no contact with?

This not only goes for social media but the several mental health forums being posted on as well for reassurance. It's a virtual world and one that has become a safe space of sorts. Much easier than facing reality I suppose

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