EMDR experiences

[MyNameIsTerry]

Yes, a good night away to try to relax. And try to allow yourself to relax and not spend the time wanting to phone home to check. You need a break and don't feel guilty about it either.

[Carys]

DArned right you need a break !!!!

[Dying_Swan]

When is the next session Pulisa? I think it sounds positive that the psychologist is willing to be flexible in approach depending on your son's needs at that time. That way he is still getting some professional support, but hopefully at his own pace. I wonder whether having it via Skype might feel less intense for your son to cope with, as well as not having the travel difficulties.

There are so many gaps in mental health provision, and far too many people unfortunately fall between them. I hope the short break will be therapeutic for your daughter, as well as for you.

[pulisa]

Thank you, DS. We both need a break away from the situation. I think anyone would struggle with this, regardless of anxiety.

The next session via Skype is on Tuesday. I am thankful to have appropriate professional support even if it's just for an hour.

[MyNameIsTerry]

Yes, they would. And some would likely end up on here with an anxiety disorder after going through this with a loved one. Anyone could have a breakdown from so much prolonged pressure.

[pulisa]

I think my OCD/poss autistic traits/motivation have helped keep me going and have done me a huge favour, Terry. I would probably have a breakdown if I had nothing to do/nobody to look after and had to face up to my own demons.

[ankietyjoe]

To put this into perspective, I have a one hour weekly session with a therapist because of my partners DID. It's easy to lose track of just how much stress it is being around somebody with a trauma disorder. For example yesterday she 'split' on the sofa at home just before I had to pick up the youngest from school and my eldest (still only 11) got home. Obviously they can't find her there like that, but I had to get her sorted out and still not be late for the school run. I had no idea who she was at that point, but she was basically mumbling incoherently and was 'dead weight'. I managed to get her upright, but couldn't move her from the sofa (physically moving her without her consent can cause extreme reactions, so it has to be handled with care and permissions). I managed to get her propped up and quiet, but had to text my son on his way home from school that Mummy had a massive headache so don't even talk to her when you get home and just go upstairs and play for a while. I deal with stuff like this on a regular basis, and more. Trauma disorders suck. It's stressful to deal with as you cannot do the normal reasoning with somebody who isn't really there and doesn't know who you are.

There is help out there though, and we're always here too P.

[Carnation]

A hug for you Joe
For you and your daughter, Pulisa x

[pulisa]

I do appreciate your input, Joe and I'm pleased you have some small form of professional support. I have been in the system of caring for 34 years now and am very used to putting up a fight to get what my children need. At some point you realise that you're better off on your own because you know more than the so called experts and Surrey is appalling as regards being flexible when round pegs don't fit in square holes regarding care packages. I'm currently negotiating with IAPT to get some counselling for myself alongside my daughter as it's really difficult to get help for her as she has an ASD label.

thank you, Carnation xx

[ankietyjoe]

I do appreciate your input, Joe and I'm pleased you have some small form of professional support. I have been in the system of caring for 34 years now and am very used to putting up a fight to get what my children need. At some point you realise that you're better off on your own because you know more than the so called experts and Surrey is appalling as regards being flexible when round pegs don't fit in square holes regarding care packages. I'm currently negotiating with IAPT to get some counselling for myself alongside my daughter as it's really difficult to get help for her as she has an ASD label.

thank you, Carnation xx

We have been lucky (combined with fighting) to receive the support we have. If you like, I could ask about any other resources local to you. Surrey isn't far from me, and my therapist is part of a larger dissociative specialist, so maybe she could help?

And thanks too, Carnation x