CBT update

[Fishmanpa]

Why are you on dating sites?

I brought this up when I saw Phil post about dating sites and talking to another woman on another OCD site just before the wedding that was causing him anxiety. Got a raft of poo about doing it so.... Anyway...

[pulisa]

Probably difficult to break old habits and routines..

[phil06]

Yes I admit that I have issues with ocd and need to do more self help. I had advice elsewhere online to quit social media but I don’t quite agree this is the cure as its ocd I have issues with. I was able to fly and use social media in the past only two years ago without anxiety. It’s not a long standing issue so surely I should be giving in so easy? I have decided it’s best I avoid posting or adding people for a little while as often it clears my head. I have felt very guilty about trying to add people and cancelling the request due to my self doubt that I will be tainted. I realised today I already think some friends on Facebook are tainted but I am able to live with that feeling got anxiety where as adding somebody causes a little more anxiety. But yes obviously I could stay off dating apps to avoid this but again the issue lies with my ocd.

At the moment I am managing my ocd on a daily basis. Even if I quit social media my ocd would move onto something else. Perhaps the ocd will win and I won’t post about the birthday night out. Perhaps I won’t add friends for a while. However this is avoidance and I know it won’t help but again I can’t keep adding and cancelling requests either. I do feel I need to clear my head a bit. I am not expecting to be cured overnight but I have to move from managing it on a daily basis to “coping” as in making choices to add people without worrying I am tainted surely this is a realistic goal?

[BlueIris]

Phil, what the everloving eff are you doing on dating apps?

[phil06]

Phil, what the everloving eff are you doing on dating apps?

Its not recent but I mentioned a year ago I spoke to somebody but it means I worry I spoke to others before so worry about Facebook more so it hasn’t helped

[BlueIris]

Has it occurred to you that being on dating apps as an engaged or married man might be, well, something a horrible person would do?

[phil06]

Has it occurred to you that being on dating apps as an engaged or married man might be, well, something a horrible person would do?

My partner found out about the dating app thing years ago. My issue is the anxiety I have with social media

[BlueIris]

I think your anxiety is the least of your problems, and that you need to work on your basic human decency.

[pulisa]

Do you understand that it's not appropriate to be on dating apps when you are newly married and supposedly committed to a solid relationship? Do you understand how others-including your wife-may view this? It's not about YOU feeling "tainted" because your behaviour is tainted in many people's eyes.

[phil06]

Do you understand that it's not appropriate to be on dating apps when you are newly married and supposedly committed to a solid relationship? Do you understand how others-including your wife-may view this? It's not about YOU feeling "tainted" because your behaviour is tainted in many people's eyes.

Well I’m not here for a chat about my personal life to be honest. I never said anything is right however I am here as I need help for my ocd and anxiety when I can’t add Facebook friends or make a post due to anxiety this is where I need some help