CBT update

[Carys]

I have a question about my partners birthday night out obviously I had a topic on it and discussed it but it’s in a pub, probably can’t go ahead but we paid £200 pounds to the pub and the singer should I be asking for it back? My partner is too afraid to ask for it back as people will be struggling financially? And also I have to decide if I rearrange problem is we have no idea how long pubs will be closed for.

I don't think this is an appropriate question, so am not going to answer it. If you can choose what to discuss, which is of course entirely your prerogative! (despite having brought things up yourself), then we can choose what to discuss also.

[pulisa]

What a terrible dilemma for you, Phil

[phil06]

What a terrible dilemma for you, Phil

Yes I can cancel it and pay the rest when I rearrange or ask for money back that’s my two options. Chances of it going ahead is zero as pubs won’t be open by the summer. It’s not a bad dilemma but I would feel bad requesting a refund.

[MyNameIsTerry]

What a silly question I know each person I add otherwise I wouldn’t add them they are family or work people.

It's not a silly question. Many people add all & sundry to their social media friends to appear popular.

[MyNameIsTerry]

Yes I can cancel it and pay the rest when I rearrange or ask for money back that’s my two options. Chances of it going ahead is zero as pubs won’t be open by the summer. It’s not a bad dilemma but I would feel bad requesting a refund.

Why wouldn't you want it back? The pub aren't going to be donating it to a good cause and may spend it on anything. Everyone has hard times but businesses aren't charity.

[MyNameIsTerry]

It doesn’t matter the length of time it’s been an issue for, it’s a new anxiety that needs to be treated and you need to treat it. You keep asking the same questions and we keep giving you the same answers.

Amazing posts by Carys & Terry.

Thanks Scass.

[MyNameIsTerry]

Are some of us here on the forum Tainted? I know I am or is it just on social media.

Is that a miss spelling? I know you are painted...

[Lolalee1]

Phill 200 quid would go a long way towards a “fancy” house or a plane fare ticket to Trumpville.
I would ask for it back.

Terry I am painted,tainted and sainted

[phil06]

Phill 200 quid would go a long way towards a “fancy” house or a plane fare ticket to Trumpville.
I would ask for it back.

Terry I am painted,tainted and sainted

You are correct.

But can I just say it’s my wife’s money not my money as she paid the deposits for her night out. But I guess I still have a duty to ask for it back given I arranged some of it. It looks unlikely to go ahead sure I can rebook next year but I may have to ask for money back incase pubs ect don’t reopen

[phil06]

Back to the social media thing a friend I tried to add from work a few days ago that I cancelled I decided to try and add again. I decided to pick one that caused me lesser anxiety. I already think my partner is tainted as I spoke to other women so I realise I have to try and battle through the tainted feelings. I have to some how accept I never spoke to these people. I am at a stage where I believe everything my head makes up so I know I need to stop?