CBT update

[phil06]

I bet if you looked into it properly you could find “a cure”.

So will I ever be able to add Facebook friends again that’s my worry. I deleted those people but I can’t keep adding and deleting. Not adding gives me relief but it’s i it recently this ocd has got worse. I had a thought about deleting someone else as I spoke to them they had a mutual friend with a person I spoke to but I resisted the deletion. I however couldn’t resist deleting the people I added..I am keen to add more to try and ride the anxiety our longer..

[Scass]

Unless you deal with the anxiety you’ll keep having the same problem.

I know anxiety is awful and unbearable. I think I understand how the feeling burns at you. You still can’t keep adding and deleting people, it’s rude.

[phil06]

Unless you deal with the anxiety you’ll keep having the same problem.

I know anxiety is awful and unbearable. I think I understand how the feeling burns at you. You still can’t keep adding and deleting people, it’s rude.

Yes it’s not practical to keep adding and deleting..I just couldn’t control the anxiety but I will hold off maybe I will be able to add people again soon.

[pulisa]

How do you feel when someone "deletes" you? Do you feel tainted? Does it bother you? Is your list unbalanced and tainted thanks to another person's actions which you haven't been able to control?

[phil06]

How do you feel when someone "deletes" you? Do you feel tainted? Does it bother you? Is your list unbalanced and tainted thanks to another person's actions which you haven't been able to control?

I believe the birthday night anxiety is what trigged me to worry about social media. And no if somebody deletes me they are not tainted it maybe annoys me but I don’t give it anymore thought usually.

The other source for this anxiety is dating sites I mentioned this before but the problem is my ocd says somebody looks like x person so I can’t add them as they would be tainted. It spells back to a year ago when I spoke to somebody and told them they were nice even though they were not In the least but attractive. My partner seen those messages on Facebook so since then i believed the relationship was tainted. I mentioned this on the forum before. But it never bothered me until lately I could add 99% of people no anxiety but past few months the anxiety about social media has increased..I have no idea why I am so focused on this.

And yes I know I shouldn’t have spoke to anybody but that’s how it is.

[Fishmanpa]

Again I ask, why, as a married man are you visiting dating sites?

As far as a cure? While it may be helpful with your contamination issues in terms of cleaning, I don't suggest following Trump's suggestion of ingesting Clorox or inserting UV light into your body

Positive thoughts

[phil06]

So my ocd is:

*Worry about putting birthday night out on social media due to worrying about her 30th being on show and also worry I spoke to the singers before not his partner. Night out cancelled for now but point is I probably never spoke to either before even if I did speak to his partner it’s pointless nobody would know but I feel posting is tainted
*I seen a certain hair style at a tourist spot on a social media site so my ocd says don’t post that photo from that location again (the worry being its tainted or people will assume its that hair style)
*And again adding new friends my worry is I spoke to them before. Logically it’s not possible most are from England or further away or Glasgow or Edinburgh there is very few from my area on these sites. Ocd still says I spoke to them before so if I add them my friend list is tainted or I feel anxiety and urge to delete them

Thats my ocd about social media in brief. Now how can I control these worries or views I have? How can I challenge what I put above? At the moment my solution is to delete people, avoid posting ect but it’s no life is it?

[Scass]

Phil, you ask the same question every other day.

[phil06]

Phil, you ask the same question every other day.

Nobody has found a solution for me though

[venusbluejeans]

Nobody has found a solution for me though

The only person who can find a solution is YOU!