CBT update

[phil06]

How does your mental illness affect you in real life with these types of irrational thoughts that appear to be constantly bombarding you? I know you're in a relationship, own a home, work etc. but how do these thoughts, other than the monetary impact, affect your day to day life?

Positive thoughts

I often mention them to my partner but only occasionally as she doesn’t get my anxiety. It doesn’t affect me too much to be honest other than my avoidance of flying or driving. I use to avoid much more but less so now. It affects me often as I sit down and relax at night whilst on social media I can have these worries or a worry time and the thoughts are on my mind. When I am at work I am less focused on this. I often find stuff that never troubled me years ago troubles me more now. The simplest thing can set off a panic attack.

My anxiety and ocd has been high since I moved house. That was two years ago I can pin point it to that as before I had spells it less anxiety. I admit I could do more to tackle my anxiety like healthy eating or relaxation but I only actually do these when my anxiety is very bad. But no I would say it only impacts my life in terms of I sit worrying on forums all night..

[Fishmanpa]

But no I would say it only impacts my life in terms of I sit worrying on forums all night..

Thank you. I appreciate your honesty. It gave me affirmation.

Positive thoughts

[pulisa]

And there you have it...The dangers of forums and the "opportunities" they provide for introspection and rumination when used inappropriately.

[phil06]

My ocd has been much worse again lately. I have had increased false thoughts but I’ve had this before and it goes away. Usually there is a trigger but would coronavirus be that trigger?

Another trigger has been I ordered an item on eBay and I click and collected at Argos only they closed so it got sent back but the seller won’t refund so I am worried I have lost over £100 pounds

[Scass]

Well eBay will refunds you, don’t worry about that.

[MyNameIsTerry]

If you ordered after the lockdown you will likely not get a refund on postage. You will get the item price back though. Just advance it onto the dispute stage and let them tell the seller what is expected.

[phil06]

Thanks it’s now with PayPal who seem to take a while that’s what worries me PayPal told me to go to my bank

[Scass]

Why isn’t it with eBay?

[MyNameIsTerry]

You just raise a dispute on Ebay and they do the rest. You don't go through PayPal anymore, that changed years ago.

I suggest you check the dispute articles on Ebay. It's very easy, the options are next to the item your bought on your purchased items page.

First you try the seller. There is a timescale quoted before referring to Ebay.

Try all that first. Trying to perform an indemnity claim or claw back via your bank might not be so simple.

But did you buy this during the lockdown?

[phil06]

You just raise a dispute on Ebay and they do the rest. You don't go through PayPal anymore, that changed years ago.

I suggest you check the dispute articles on Ebay. It's very easy, the options are next to the item your bought on your purchased items page.

First you try the seller. There is a timescale quoted before referring to Ebay.

Try all that first. Trying to perform an indemnity claim or claw back via your bank might not be so simple.

But did you buy this during the lockdown?

Yes I bought it in error and cancelled but the seller sent anyway. I was advised to open a PayPal case on eBay message boards but I have been told that was not a good idea so eBay won’t deal with it now sadly.

But yes back to my ocd I believe it’s got worse but it’s due to these stresses I lost £50 with concert tickets last year it was not a lot of money but I had to call the bank lots. I have had ocd lately like lies saying I have blurted something silly out on social media about me in the past which isn’t true but this is how my ocd is operating trying to make me fear my character or taint me. Everything I do right now is about tainting. I touched on it before how I worry about who I add on Facebook. It got so bad I had to remove some friends as I worried they were tainted. If my brother gets a new partner I worry she is tainted and I spoke to her before on a dating site this is what my ocd is saying. Sure I may never have spoke to her..I use to have this worry with dating sites until I met my partner. My ocd has been focused on hypothetical situations a few months ago I mentioned buying a new sofa how this would stress me out. I wish I could some now feel better but each day my mind finds new puzzles to create..