Im not sure if this is the right place to post or not but would like a few questions answered if that's OK regarding some awful reponses to posts by other members on here.
I have been a member here since 2004 and have enjoyed making friends, chatting to others in the similar predicament to myself over the years.
Im not a big poster on the forum but have recently been scrolling and searching through relevant posts that I have been searching for etc.
I have suffered from severe crippling anxiety, panic attacks, depression, agoraphobia, OCD, for the last 18 years and in the past 2 years, health anxiety which has been pretty severe.
A few of the members here that I have noticed have made posts in desperate need of some reassurance and some sound advice. Whilst I understand how bad anxiety is for me, I have suffered for so long, I find myself to be highly intelligent enough to know that the absolute callousness, and insensitive replies I have seen posted on other people's threads is extremely upsetting. For example, here are a few comments which I find to be belittling others with mental health, which in my opinion is outrageous and morally wrong.
https://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showth...t=yellow+nails
https://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showth...t=yellow+nails
To be honest this whole thread is upsetting with the amount of rude and insensitive comments, heart wrenching from an onlooker in my opinion.
Another example is the Cononovirus worries that everyone seems to have, the thread is totally unnecessary and should be removed. Although I have severe health anxiety currently this virus hasnt bothered me in the slightest. This just adds fuel to an already burning fire.....
A member was blocked from posting on this thread whereas I see nothing was remotely wrong with that he posted. Yet others are allowed to comment and be fearful about this Covid19 virus. The member in question is Phil06. I have known Phil06 for more years than I can count on my hands. I understand his health worries, his OCD and thought patterns. He feels no longer welcome here and it is such a shame that anyone here could make such a person feel like that.
I understand the frustrations of others who post these insensitive replies. Do I Google 10 hours a day? Yes I do....Does it get me anywhere? No. Am I in therapy trying to make this all better? Yes. Do I have logical thinking at times....absolutely not! I have had 6 rounds of intense therapy in the past 18 years, has it made any difference? No. Do I think others should try and help themselves by taking others advice? Absolutely.
There are people that come here for reassurance, to chat with others that have been through similar, mental health is no joke. There are different types as we all know, some mild and some severe. The threads I have read and observed have been more of the severe type. I could fill up this whole thread with examples of poor replies from other members. The most upsetting part for me is that we have all suffered at some point in our lives with mental health otherwise we would'nt be here.
When I grew up I was taught how to respect others feelings, use my manners and it is wrong to belittle someone, and being unkind is something i'm not fond of. My parents also taught me that if I did'nt have anything nice to say to not say anything at all. Whereas these threads go on and on with negative feedback and I find it very uncomfortable to witness as do others.
I'm not trying to cause a debate, but i'm genuinely interested to know, 1, why Phil06 has been singled out on a thread that is being allowed to continue. And, 2, Why such callous and unempathetic replies are accepted here. It was'nt like this here until the past 6 years, Ive noticed. I enjoy coming here, but surely this isn't acceptable behaviour from others, grown adults especially suffering from mental health at any severity. I look forward to a reply here on this thread.
Thanks.