Thanks for your input Elen. I have no idea what the protocol for barring is and I've not spoken up for myself to an admin until now. I still stand by my comments and refer to venus coming across as curt and angry with my name at the top.
Yes, we all have our troubles and other work, I was a carer 24/7 for a decade, but still found time to answer people and help as well as battle my own life.
I know admins have to have an authority approach, but personally think it should be when it is appropriate, otherwise it defeats the object of what the Site stand for and is confusing to some members. Any authority status can be abused and applied to certain individuals.