Relationship Anxiety

[EmmerLooeez]

Have you ever read about relationship OCD? I'm not saying that necessarily reflects your experience, but it is maybe worth reading about. I think counselling would be a great help for you with this honestly.

I hope you're okay. Sending love xx

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[WiseMonkey]

It could be that everything is going along so well, that you're missing the negative drama that goes along with a dysfunctional relationship? Or you're waiting for the hammer to drop and reveal something "bad" about him, so you can end the relationship? From my experience 'finger in the light socket" relationships don't last the distance, where as sure and steady ones do. Of course if you really don't care for him then it's better to end it than keep him lingering on.

[Ruby77]

Well I've had 2 counselling sessions and I think what came out of today was that as the relationship progresses and we are getting closer, I am starting to fear the fact that it could end at any moment and that's almost making me want to run before we get to that point so I don't get hurt.

Still pretty confusing and I feel a little bit lost but I hope I can work through this.

Thanks for all your replies x

[NoraB]

This is the thing, there's nothing wrong as such. On paper, he is everything I could ever want but something just doesn't feel right.

Is this my anxiety causing this feeling or is it something else?

Could be either.

I'm into listening to gut instinct, but it's hard to differentiate when you have anxiety...

[meltedchic]

Thanks for your reply and sorry you feel this way.

How long have you felt like this? How are you dealing with it?

Well its been for a year and a half. I am always thinking that everything will be okay but deep inside there is this feeling that probably it will be more okay to let go. But part of me says no.

How are you coping?

[Stace1990]

Hey. Just saw your thread and I can fully relate to this.
I've had 5 relationships previously, all being pretty rough. Some more than others.
I've been cheated on twice, I'm also a domestic abuse survivor.
As someone said previously, that shit stays with you.

My current partner had a tough time getting with me but he was very persistent. Nothing like the rest and he's lovely. The strange thing? I'm more anxious with him than I have been with the others! I honestly think it's because I'm scared to lose him and I'm scared of getting hurt again.
I guess in time trust will come. Anxiety is awful, especially when it tries to Interfere with relationships. I'm sorry I've not got any answers, I just wanted you to know you're not alone.