Originally Posted by
ForestGirl
I have a friend who I have known for 20 years. We used to be extremely close. Hang out every day for years, talk every night etc. The last 8 years our friendship has been different, in that communication is usually superficial and he hides things from me. I really don't know if it is toxic or not, but I feel like I just want to finish this friendship because it gives me a lot of anxiety every time we talk. The thing is, the things he says to me are very subtle, so I can't tell if he is toxic or not, but I never feel good when speaking to him.
A few examples:
He deleted me off facebook 5 years ago and when I asked why, he said he didn't remember doing that, and that it doesn't matter because he doesn't use it. I found this out to be a lie, he does use facebook as I have noticed him making comments on mutual friends posts. I asked him to add me back, he says he will, but never gets around to it. This was years ago and he still hasn't gotten around to it.
My son was sick in hospital for almost 2 weeks. I told him that I was at the hospital with my son and what was happening. He didn't message me for 2 weeks, and then after my son was out of hospital, he just sent a random meme. I asked why didn't you message about my son (who he has known since he was born). He said he didn't want to bother me.
He also makes little passive aggressive comments, and sometimes I can't tell if I'm just too sensitive. We were messaging on a weekend, and I said hey, and he basically said what.. and I said, sorry, I don't want to wreck your weekend, we can talk later, and he just laughed and said how on earth could I wreck his weekend, as though I was insignificant to him now.
The thing is, I don't really message him much anymore, every now and then he will send me memes, and I will do the same to him, and we might have a small conversation. But last night we had one, and he was throwing in snide remarks about everything. So I just went silent, and this morning I have blocked him, as I don't want to feel bad anymore.
I don't know why I'm writing this. Sometimes I just feel crazy and over sensitive. What do you guys think about the examples I have given here?