Most Important Advice

[LittleLionMan]

Hi all,

I just wanted to pose a question...

If you got to tell someone who was suffering with anxiety, one piece of advice, what would it be?

Mine would probably be that it is constantly changing, and that how you are feeling now won't be how you will feel tomorrow, or even in an hours time. I remind myself of this constantly.

[NoraB]

It would be that anxiety is our body trying to keep us alive. Severe anxiety is our body trying very hard to keep us alive. The symptoms of anxiety are unpleasant, but they're not harmful, and they will fade away as the body desensitises, but that won't happen while we are pressing our foot down on the accelerator...

Try to live moment by moment, instead of brooding on the past which cannot be changed or worrying about something in the future that will most likely never happen. The present is where recovery lies, and alongside this is acceptance of whatever life will bring, including potential illness and inevitable death. There is nothing to be gained in worrying about these things but everything to be gained in accepting them.

I also advocate wolfing down the occasional chocolate bar with zero guilt.

[Lolalee1]

I tried to give advice to a friend but copped abuse so I keep quite now plus no one listens anyway.

[LittleLionMan]

All very important, and the idea that it's a purely an inbuilt survival mechanism is an easy thing to forget when it feels like your mind and body are working against you. Good little reminder that. 👍

[ankietyjoe]

Ignore it and it'll go away.

[ankietyjoe]

I tried to give advice to a friend but copped abuse so I keep quite now plus no one listens anyway.

They do listen if you persevere.

As proven by the 'lost cause' that started this thread.

[Midnight-mouse]

Quite simply that it honestly doesn’t matter and no amount of thinking about it will change a thing so why bother when there’s much more interesting things that can be enjoyed.


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[LittleLionMan]

They do listen if you persevere.

As proven by the 'lost cause' that started this thread.

I always tried to listen, and I appreciated the advice, it's just a lot to try and get your head around.

I'm still a lost cause, just a stubborn one that won't give up trying! Ha.

[pulisa]

You're hardly a lost cause. You have so much going for you, far more than most people of your age.
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Don't try too hard..It's counterproductive. Don't obsess about anxiety and don't give it significance. Once you do you're hooked

[ankietyjoe]

I always tried to listen, and I appreciated the advice, it's just a lot to try and get your head around.

I'm still a lost cause, just a stubborn one that won't give up trying! Ha.

I was being facetious.

You're not a lost cause, you just need a kick up the arse. You're somebody that needs a stick, not a carrot.

Your language here is LIGHT YEARS from where it was a couple of months ago. Recognise your own progress.