Hi all,
I've been a health anxiety sufferer for many years now. It sort of comes and goes. I can be fine for months but then one small idea or trigger gets into my head and I'm a mess. Here are some of the big ones over the years: At 14, I convinced myself I had breast cancer. When I was 17 I had a whole year or two of bad healthy anxiety; I thought everything from heart disease, bowel cancer, ovarian cancer and thyroid conditions. At 20 I was convinced I had bladder cancer. It doesn't even stop at me; I have worried about a couple of people close to me having something awful like cancer or heart conditions. I can't watch medical shows or movies because the conditions pray on my mind and I swear there have been times my body has mimicked the symptoms of a disease I have been reading or watching about.Fortunately, my assumptions have always been wrong. And when I look back, even writing this, I realize it was really silly to have thought that and been so consumed by it. I've wasted precious moments of youth worrying consistently that I am dying of a disease.
I am 24 now, and my HA hasn't been too bad in the past few years as having my boyfriend has given me a better distraction and I am not lonely like I was (I think when you're lonely or alone, you tend to focus on your body and symptoms a lot more). Of course, every time something is up with him I worry like crazy too. With the relationship, however, comes a new worry: pregnancy. I have recently posted about this and how I am currently going through some rough and anxious days. For background, we only had sex once this past month (since my last period) and it was fully protected. The condom did not rip, and it did not come off until my partner was in the bathroom. He didn't touch me before it was on either and I tested it by filling it with water after we had sex (it sounds gross but I figure that if there's a hole, I should know about it and I could get a MAP). Yet I am on day 37 of my cycle and I am still waiting for my period. I know it sounds really late, but its actually not that unusual for me as I usually have a couple of 'off' periods a year. Earlier this year I had a 40 day cycle and I hadn't had sex that month. I don't know what the reason was, maybe stress. So I could easily still get it. But, I am worrying like hell. I think perhaps it is because we in fact barely have sex (which is why we are not on an additional method of BC - I don't want all the hormones or pain to only have sex like twice a year).
Part of me wonders if I was actually scaring of my period by worrying about it - I mean literally the morning after we had sex I was starting to get anxious by it. Its because every other month when I don't have sex, I don't care when my period comes as I know that simply pregnancy is not possible. But as soon as I have sex, I suddenly feel anxiety knowing that it is not an impossibility anymore. It is just a shame. I have only had sex about 12 times and didn't lose my virginity until my early 20s in part because of these fears. I have educated myself very well on birth control and how reliable it is and how it should be used, etc. I am mature enough for sex it is just anxiety getting in my way. The way I feel right now is the way I feel when I have convinced myself of a disease: the odds can be completely against me but I still believe it anyway. Likewise, when I worry about a disease, my body tends to mimic the symptoms of it, leading me to believe it even more (which part of me wonders if my lack of period is due to the stress I am causing myself over it). Its like when I was a teen and I convinced myself I had all of these cancers, although some teens (and bless them) do get cancer, its so so rare that being convinced you have as a teen is such a waste of energy. The odds are in your favour. And its like now - the odds are in my favour - unless the sperm magically seeped through the condom (and the water somehow wasn't able to) then I literally don't know how it would happen but I'm still convinced anyway. It's probably like a 99% chance that I am not pregnant, but I am still focusing on that 1%...
Is there any way to get your mind to think in a better perspective?