Re: Really struggling
Bless you, this is a huge amount to have on your plate.
When you say you want to be able to cope like other people do, does that include 'by taking meds'? Are you already on something? Are you open to taking something?
I think the first thing to do would be to speak to your doctor. if you are already taking meds, ask for a review. And if not, just talk honestly to them about the anxiety. See what they offer by way of medicine and talking therapies (and do take that up if offered).
Are you an only child? You could speak to Social Care and ask them to signpost you to useful services. There may be things your parents can do together in the day; they may be eligible for some care visits.
The job thing is a tough one. At least you do have work and some pay - channel all the energy you are using on the anger and hurt into finding a new and better position. Remember, you hid what you were going through so they won't know they 'owe' you (and anyway that isn't how employers tend to work, is it!) Anger needs to be felt, acknowledged and then moved on from, otherwise it can eat away at you and you will have depression as well as anxiety.
You say your partner is supportive but also that they want you to pull yourself together, which isn't at all supportive. What do you need them to know and understand? There are other websites with resources for people going through anxiety - have a Google and find yourself a network and see if you can pick up some tips for helping your partner to understand.
This is just so you know your post has been read and thought about - happy to talk some more but I'm off to bed in a few minutes.
Keep talking to us. x
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