Re: Bladder Frequency and Loose Stools
Originally Posted by
chinadoll19
I have started a new thread as the other one has gone off topic.
Come on CD, a few of us were just trying to lighten your load with some humour. Bums and vagina's - hardly off topic for somebody who is on about her bowels and bladder is it?
More likely is that you're trying to seek reassurance from different people, and if so, you'd certainly not be the first to do that on here, but all such threads will be merged because there's no point in clogging up the forum with numerous threads of the same questions by the same user.
I think that you're only interested in seeking reassurance with no apparent intention to help yourself - which is why you're here again saying the same things all over again. Nothing anybody has said (that's of practical use) has made any difference whatsoever, has it?
I had severe HA and I got myself better by being proactive. There's really no other way - not long-term anyway. And when I had my breakdown, I wanted to hear from people who'd had severe HA and got better. I wasn't interested in the 'there there' approach. I wanted to know what I had to do to get myself better, you know? 'Yeah, me too' only gives short-term comfort because the HA mind is too convincing and soon comes back with the 'Yes, buts' or a new symptom that we've never had before. We do not understand that it's 'us' creating these symptoms, and not some disease.
Scary (and irrational) thoughts = stress response = stress hormones (especially adrenalin, cortisol, norepinephrine) = symptoms (normal stress response, but which we do not understand) = fear & imaginary diseases which are always terminal.
For what it's worth...
I've had bladder frequency all week. Why? Because my anxiety is high. Because my system is in fight or flight and thinks it needs to purge. The thought of bladder cancer never entered my head. It would have done a few years ago, until I pulled out all the stops to get myself better, and this is the result: I have a symptom but no fear because I understand anxiety and the stress response. More importantly, what I need to do to bring things back under control.
As long as your anxiety is high, you will keep feeling the urge to pee. This is your body acting NORMALLY to your IRRATIONAL thoughts. IT'S BASIC FIGHT OR FLIGHT RESPONSE.
Severe anxiety is very unpleasant, and I can empathise till the cows come home, but that won't help you out of the hole you're in. There will be folk on here who will be able to offer you the short-term comfort you're after, but I'm not one of them. I want you to be able to control your HA, or better, kick it to the gutter. Only one way to do that, and that's to be proactive.
Respectfully, you need to get your head out of the toilet and into therapy, CD. I have sympathy for you RE your husbands, and it's totally understandable why you've developed HA but this is your story, not theirs - and unlike them, you don't have cancer. There's nothing to suggest that you do. What's clear to me is that you're getting older (and so is your digestive system) we can't eat stuff we used to eat without issues anymore - but those issues are easily remedied by a dietary overall.
Most importantly, you have a mental health disorder which you can recover from if you put the work in..
Anyway, the pattern seems to be that you will thank me for my reply. Or not bother. Then it will be back to the symptoms...
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