It must be awful for Becky..I'd hate to be preached at day in, day out and terrified of going against his beliefs.
It must be awful for Becky..I'd hate to be preached at day in, day out and terrified of going against his beliefs.
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My memory isn't what it used to be but I recall he had so much shit from autistics (and some NT parents) that I 'think' he took the video down. He trying to 'raise autism awareness' but you don't go about this by recording your child in a very vulnerable and highly distressing moment with the intention of uploading it for the world to see do you?
[/QUOTE]Also toilets, both the fixtures themselves and the rooms/ environments they're in can be quite scary and intimidating to many kids, ASD or not. Even peripheral devices installed in the same room such as loud hand dryers and even light fittings (or much rather the lack of working ones) can be an even bigger nightmare for them than actually having a wee or a poo. Certainly was for me on occasions as a little kid.[/QUOTE]
My son had meltdowns in the public loos because of the hand dryers being so loud. That was in the women's loos. He wouldn't go in the gents because of the smell. So I got a radar key to use disabled loos with him and, boy, the shitty looks and comments I got from people who just saw a 'normal' looking boy and his mother using the disabled loo! At one time I carried his diagnosis around with me to shove in the faces of people who told me 'I was a disgrace'.. The clue is in the name 'disabled' and autism is a recognised disability but try telling that to judgemental @rseholes who are looking for wheelchairs. I'm glad they are starting to change the signs on disabled toilets to 'not all disabilities are visible'.
I think he probably felt it was a good idea at the time Lenco. It's good that people are trying to bring autism to the forefront, but the difference seems to be that autistics generally advocate autism 'acceptance' and non-autistics (parents etc) are about awareness, and a very large part of that is about the effect their 'child's autism' has on them, rather than the issues their autistic children face every second of their lives.That barsteward of a dad should hang his head in shame!
I videoed one of my son's meltdowns, or parts of it as I had to keep shifting stuff out of the way for safety. He was three and had been losing his shit every time he went to playgroup and he'd just started nursery. I needed my husband to see what was happening when he was at work because I knew there was a problem that went way beyond 'toddler tantrums'. I'd never seen anything like it, but I wouldn't have dreamt of putting it online. I consider what the father did as abusive because he knew the child was autistic and he knew that the child was distressed and the video was to show random people how difficult his life as an 'autism parent' is. The child didn't get a say in the matter. That's my issue.
A thought is harmless unless we believe it.
The problem is that the very basic facts will not be seen as facts..because a fact is only a fact to the person who believes it regardless of insurmountable evidence.
Do conspiracy theorists enjoy being called conspiracy theorists, I wonder? What if an ardent Covid denier loses a loved one to Covid? How do they explain that to themselves? Is there always an explanation to suit the mindset of those in denial?
Also toilets, both the fixtures themselves and the rooms/ environments they're in can be quite scary and intimidating to many kids, ASD or not. Even peripheral devices installed in the same room such as loud hand dryers and even light fittings (or much rather the lack of working ones) can be an even bigger nightmare for them than actually having a wee or a poo. Certainly was for me on occasions as a little kid.[/QUOTE]
My son had meltdowns in the public loos because of the hand dryers being so loud. That was in the women's loos. He wouldn't go in the gents because of the smell. So I got a radar key to use disabled loos with him and, boy, the shitty looks and comments I got from people who just saw a 'normal' looking boy and his mother using the disabled loo! At one time I carried his diagnosis around with me to shove in the faces of people who told me 'I was a disgrace'.. The clue is in the name 'disabled' and autism is a recognised disability but try telling that to judgemental @rseholes who are looking for wheelchairs. I'm glad they are starting to change the signs on disabled toilets to 'not all disabilities are visible'.
I think he probably felt it was a good idea at the time Lenco. It's good that people are trying to bring autism to the forefront, but the difference seems to be that autistics generally advocate autism 'acceptance' and non-autistics (parents etc) are about awareness, and a very large part of that is about the effect their 'child's autism' has on them, rather than the issues their autistic children face every second of their lives.
I videoed one of my son's meltdowns, or parts of it as I had to keep shifting stuff out of the way for safety. He was three and had been losing his shit every time he went to playgroup and he'd just started nursery. I needed my husband to see what was happening when he was at work because I knew there was a problem that went way beyond 'toddler tantrums'. I'd never seen anything like it, but I wouldn't have dreamt of putting it online. I consider what the father did as abusive because he knew the child was autistic and he knew that the child was distressed and the video was to show random people how difficult his life as an 'autism parent' is. The child didn't get a say in the matter. That's my issue.[/QUOTE]
Just to reiterate, if that video was made for 'private' reasons (e.g, evidence for clinical psychologists) it might have been more justifiable, but for said video to end up online for viewing by all and sundry and inevitably having negative consequences, is beyond irresponsible and unethical IMO.
Sadly, it still very much seems that toilets and likewise facilities come well down on the list of priorities for most people, and their general design and layout still very much remains overlooked, especially in terms of being 'disability-friendly' and 'designing out crime'.
Hardly rocket science, is it?
Again... back to the OP and subject at hand
When you are in a relationship, marriage, friendship etc., much of compatibility is based on common likes, dislikes, beliefs, whether it be religion, politics or other aspects of life. As was said, it has to be troubling when those commonalities change. Relationships, marriages and friendships often end when these things happen.
I wish there were an easy answer for you Becky. In my 6 decades of life, I don't ever recall the divisiveness and skewed perceptions of reality as I'm seeing now. The ex president is now saying he'll be re-instated in August and his ex National Security Advisor just said we should have a coup! Add to that the "Q" nonsense and the virus conspiracy theories your husband is subscribing to and it makes for a very volatile situation.
Here's to hope...
Positive thoughts
"Eat. Drink. Enjoy the work you do. Be thankful for the blessings God gives you in this life. Live, love and seek out the things that bring your heart joy. The rest is meaningless... Like chasing the wind." King Solomon
The best help is the help you give yourself! http://cbt4panic.org/
How can Dollard simply go waltzing back into the White House just like that in August?
He was legitimately voted out of office by the American people last November, and it's about time that delusional barsteward of an ex-POTUS got real and stopped playing silly buggers.
He should be arrested and imprisoned/sectioned IMO.
Biden and Co really need to take this seriously and not back down.
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