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    Feeling isolated from friends

    I got married in 2019 and had a good social life we had about 100 guests but since the pandemic I have seen very few other than close family or work colleagues. Some of those friends have started to meet up in smaller groups again but me and my wife have been left out. My wife has also not seen her close friends in two years. My worry is it won’t go back in your 30’s often people settle yet very few of our friends have a family but covid seems to have accelerated things to a point where I don’t see anybody. I don’t really need advice but I just feel a little depressed about it maybe others had similar experiences but I just get a little tired seeing same faces and never anybody new?

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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    Quote Originally Posted by phil06 View Post
    I just get a little tired seeing same faces and never anybody new?
    What's the question?

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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    Why don’t you arrange to meet up with them?


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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    Quote Originally Posted by phil06 View Post
    I got married in 2019 and had a good social life we had about 100 guests
    I had 11 guests at mine. Total of 15 including myself, Hubs and our son. One table. Bliss.

    First wedding was a grand total of 17 including my (then) husband and myself.

    Perhaps Scass is right? Arrange to meet up with somebody? If they swerve the invitation, then maybe you need to explore that a bit further?
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    Yes the issue is they use to meet up in larger groups and that isn’t happening. Often I felt like an after thought as some have there “best friends” so perhaps there is no room for me? I met one of them in March outside my house but that was all. I don’t like to ask I was meant to rearrange my wife’s birthday but that’s never happened despite stuff like large weddings going ahead now..

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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    Quote Originally Posted by phil06 View Post
    Yes the issue is they use to meet up in larger groups and that isn’t happening. Often I felt like an after thought as some have there “best friends” so perhaps there is no room for me? I met one of them in March outside my house but that was all. I don’t like to ask I was meant to rearrange my wife’s birthday but that’s never happened despite stuff like large weddings going ahead now..
    I never had you down as a party animal Phil.

    I'm the opposite to you then. I break out into a cold sweat at the sight of a party invitation..

    I'm probably the last person who should be giving advice on socialising, but I'd imagine that the best thing to do is to organise a get together yourselves? Be the host, rather than the guests? Is that possible with your OCD and shizzle?
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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    Quote Originally Posted by NoraB View Post
    I never had you down as a party animal Phil.

    I'm the opposite to you then. I break out into a cold sweat at the sight of a party invitation..

    I'm probably the last person who should be giving advice on socialising, but I'd imagine that the best thing to do is to organise a get together yourselves? Be the host, rather than the guests? Is that possible with your OCD and shizzle?
    Yes that’s true I could I was maybe playing a ten pin bowling night for my birthday later in year. The small party for my wife from what I gather the rules say it could happen I could have live music and guests but I wonder how safe it is with COVID. I’ve heard of garden parties going ahead but I don’t have a big garden and also large weddings. Maybe I need to give it a little longer

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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    Do you prefer meeting up in a large group? It may be easier to just keep things small and uncomplicated by arranging a meet up with a close friend or two?

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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    I know this will meet with a brick wall, and possible consternation from Phil, but maybe people don't feel as confident meeting up with the nonvaccinated. I wouldn't. However, as somebody else said above - you be the host, not the guest. Ask a few people around for a light-hearted and easy-going garden get together, seeing as the weather is going to be good in the next week.

    but since the pandemic I have seen very few other than close family or work colleagues.
    .....I think its worth pointing out that everybody has had the same scenario and its not limited to your life, infact some people saw nobody at all during long stretches of this year.
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    Re: Feeling isolated from friends

    I am with you on this Carys.

    I am staying away from certain people who are not vaccinated as well.

    Phil - no-one has had a social life this past year. I have seen my best mate twice in a year and my family twice as well. We just have to suck it up.
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