Thanks Carys and Pulisa, that all makes sense. Particularly the faulty thinking part where being referred makes me feel more at risk and vulnerable but is actually not as risky as avoiding. Appointment is tonight so feeling very on edge but trying to keep busy. I’m long past the googling stage but I have read a few threads on here (I know still seeking reassurance) but where people have dense or thickened breast tissue and this can be normal. Deep breath. At least I should have more info after tonight. I know this is the tip of my iceberg as I then have it all with my mum but she can’t be seen until 3rd. Focussing on fact she is still here at the minute and that we face it all step by step. Like many I struggle with black and white catastrophic thinking. If she does have it again then we start whatever treatment plan is, op etc. She is older now and more frail but she has got over this before. Being more risky does not equal not possible.
Sorry in a rambling, talking myself through this mode.
Thanks everyone
Love flump x