Sorry for another negative post, just feel a bit upset at the moment and wanted to vent. Any suggestions or alternative thinking would be helpful
I have a big fear of being abandoned and let down and this is played out in my insecurities and need for reassurance.
My partner is busy at work. I appreciate that, but if I text him to ask him something I very rarely get a reply - even though I know he gets my texts but just says he forgets to reply. Yesterday I text him to say I'd paid the council tax like he'd asked me to do and nothing. I just would have liked acknowledgment - a thank you even.
I know he doesnt like texting, he says he cant be bothered (even though he seems to text his mates without any moaning). With this in mind I emailed him yesterday just asking about something to do with our wedding - I said if he saw the dressmaker (she works in the same building) could he ask her when would be good for me to go and see her. No reply.
He got home yesterday and I asked him about whether he had seen the dressmaker and he said "no". I mentioned that he didnt reply to my email. He said sorry very vaguley whilst still concentrating on the TV.
It just upsets me because if he phones me and I dont answer because I dont hear the phone, he gets annoyed at me and I feel bad because I dont hear the phone. But its ok for him to not reply to me, even though I know he gets my messages. Its not like I bombard him, I send him one, maybe two messages a day just asking him about things - its not even reassurance most of the time. Just random stuff.
Not meaning to be graphic but when he got home last night at about 7.30pm he cuddled and kissed me and said he wanted to be "intimate" later. So for the next 3 and a half hours we were in front of the TV and nothing. I fell asleep on the sofa just before 11pm cos I'd had a bad nights sleep on Sunday. I woke up at 11.30pm and my partner suggest I go to bed. I sat there for about 5 minutes but was just so tired so said goodnight. He said he would be in soon but not sure when he came in.
Now I feel bad because we werent intimate (felt bad for falling alseep) but he didnt even make any moves for the 3 and a half hours we were watching TV.
He's out tonight as well, just filming so that's made me anxious because I dont like being in on my own. I feel like we need to talk about this (or rather its something I need to resolve with him) but he wont be in. So now I feel abandoned, as usual.
I know he's busy but sometimes I just feel on my own. I feel a bit ignored. I am trying to organise our wedding too and dont have much input from him. We cut down the guest list last night because I am worried about money. He says I shouldnt stress but he's not the one trying to arrange it all.
I dont know. Is this my anxiety and underlying feeling of being let down or am I right to be a bit annoyed that it seems to be ok for him to "ignore" me but when he needs to speak to me and cant he gets a bit miffed.
Just got lots of emotions running round my head at the moment, sorry