Re: Constant worrying!
Hi Kate,
I feel much the same way! I'm 'only' 30, but all of my closest friends are in relationships; most are married and due to start having kids soon. I myself have never been in a super long-term relationship. I really just struggle with it all in general. It seems the only way to really get into dating now is online/via apps, and I absolutely hate that because there is just so much pressure put on that first date. I wish it were easier to get to know people organically now.
Additionally, I guess I've had enough bad experiences and sat around watching the bad experiences of others to make me pause. I have married friends who are stuck doing everything - making appointments, cooking, cleaning, etc. and they work too (but don't have children yet)! I've also seen them be in relationships where they are treated poorly. And, though I love my dad, I've seen my own parents' relationship, where a lot of emotional burden is put on my mom, but she doesn't have a whole lot of autonomy. They did a bunch of remodeling on their house over the years and anything she suggested was shot down. I'm remodeling my own home with my dad's help and have to fight that fight as well.
So in my mind, if that's what's in store I'd rather not. And I know not everyone is like that, but I have a real fear that I would end up in a relationship where that was the reality, and I wonder if I'd be strong enough to just leave. I'd like to think so.
Anyway, I kind of took off on this but please understand - I absolutely get it. If you need to vent or anything I'm always able to listen.
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