Re: Sick of this cr*p no sleep, any encouragement would help.
Originally Posted by
Liziam
Hi,
so had crippling panic attacks last week 2 over 2 nights had no clue they were crippling panic attacks no idea,
Hi Liz, these sound like nocturnal panic attacks. I have had these for several years now, at my worst they were happening every night, but now I only get them a few times a month and I deal with them by doing my deep breathing exercises or getting up and moving about if I feel too wired. These panic attacks feel a lot worse than daytime ones because they're happening when we're asleep etc and there are fewer distractions, but they are harmless.
I’m in my late 40’s and I’m autistic have chronic anxiety and clinical depression,
Did you have a late autism diagnosis, Liz? (I was 47)
I'd say that MH issues like anxiety, depression, OCD, etc are par for the course of being autistic. It takes a lot of nervous, mental, emotional and physical energy to exist in a world that's not compatible with how our brains are wired. I certainly don't know of any autistic human being who doesn't have at least one MH disorder...
A&E spent all night there till 4am still wasn’t told it was panic attacks
I developed panic disorder after my mum died. I was used to the panic attacks as part of my 'norm but I developed nocturnal ones too. (I also ended up in A&E due to panic attacks and clinical depression took me down as far as you can go)
cut to now and I feel better re depression but these panic attacks are now lower level but I’m constantly feeling it in my legs and obviously in my brain along with the diarrhoea etc I’m having so many symptoms of anxiety, and I just can’t fall asleep, now I’ve always been an insomniac and I’ve dealt with it it my way, I’ve managed to get some sleep. But this I’ve never had this, and I’m so sick of it
When you say 'insomnia' what exactly is your sleep pattern?
Something else for you to consider, if you're experiencing a lot of physical symptoms (that's not normal for you) is fibromyalgia. This is really common with autistics because of how stressed we generally are. Many of us reach middle age, and there's a trigger such as a trauma, or an illness etc, and then we develop a condition like fibro or CFS. (Just something for you to consider)
Another thing for you to consider is perimenopause which brings with it numerous physical symptoms and an increase in MH issues like depression and anxiety.
I know also my autism is hating my new better routine change and it can take 12 weeks for autism to accept a new routine, but it’s battling me hard by giving me these feelings. AUTISM SUCKS I have no gifts from it it’s horrible. There’s no funding for help really. I’m just sick of it all. Anyone out there to just encourage me.
Your brain will take a few months to fully adapt to a new routine, yes.
I'm so sorry that you feel this way re autism. I do understand how you feel though. I was angry about so many things when I realised that I am autistic - even more so when I got the official DX. But many of those struggles were due to how people treated me, and that's nothing to do with autism and everything to do with their issues. It is undoubtedly incredibly difficult to be autistic, and non-autistics can't possibly fully understand this. I don't hate being autistic, and maybe that's because I have worked hard to make changes in my life so that things don't suck as much? I understand myself now. I don't try to hide who I am anymore. I stay away from people who have a problem with me being 'me'. I work with the anxiety and depression. The thoughts I get (which I've always had) no longer scare me. The gift that autism has given me is how I experience music, which appears to be on every level there is, not just sound. I thought that was how everybody experiences music, but it turns out the majority of people hear a song, whereas I experience it with all my senses. I'm also a nightmare (for other people) when it comes to music quizzes, or I was before I developed fibro and fibro fog.
The support for autistic adults (those without the major learning disabilities) is shit to be honest. But there is a lot of support out there from the autistic community. With the determination to help ourselves as much as we possibly can, we can improve our existence, but we also need to accept that there will be times when we would pretty much do anything to swap brains with an NT or have a lobotomy lol. That said, would that guarantee us happiness? Given that every person who ever bullied or abused me wasn't/isn't autistic (to my knowledge) I'd say that being NT doesn't guarantee a better or happier life.
Bottom line: we didn't ask to be autistic, but we are. So, it's up to us to try and make the best of our existence. Yes, it sucks BIG TIME to have to work this hard simply to exist, but we can create for ourselves moments which make us think, 'It isn't so bad to be me'. And every time I play music or look at my kids and grandchildren, I have that thought.
Get the MH issues under control, Liz, and then you can work on kicking @rse as an autistic human. While we obviously don't have a choice in the way our brains are wired, we do have the choice in our attitude. I say that my life is always a work in progress whether it's the MH, autism or whatever. I'm always learning and trying to understand myself, and others.
I honestly don't think we are the minority that people think. For every person who is formally diagnosed, there are several more who are self-diagnosed or don't even realise they are autistic. WE'RE EVERYWHERE!
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