We all have those times when we sit and reflect on our lives, the decisions we've made, the experiences and events etc. and feel a longing in our hearts and a very different type of 'what if?' comes to our minds. As I'm getting older, I've found myself struggling with the reality of time. I'm so very fortunate. Having survived physical issues that would have taken most, I'm very blessed. And not just physically. With those health problems came financial issues. I basically started over in my fifties. My wife and I had married in 2014 and both of us had nothing. Seriously, it was paycheck to paycheck and we had both filed bankruptcies. Now, here we are nearly ten years later, we have good jobs, paid off debt, built our credit, bought the home we'd been renting for ten years and actually have some savings. While we don't live extravagantly by any means, we can afford a meal out a few times a month and a few days away traveling to see family or something we'd like to do or see.
And that, looking at the positives as opposed to the negatives and dwelling on 'what if's' is the key. I've said here that the biggest regrets we have are the things we didn't do due to fear. At least if you try, you'll have that in your back pocket as a pat on the back if you fail and failing is a part of life. The 'Positive Thoughts' thread is an example of a habit to keep Positive Thoughts in the front of your mind and make a concerted effort to put the negativity aside. Since my 30's, when I divorced and my life took a very different path, there were challenges. One of the things I did to help me keep a positive attitude was read a Positive Thought or quote. I subscribed to a website I found and have been getting Positive Quotes every day in my email. I've post most of those here over the last 8 years. I would even take a sticky and write it down, stick it to the bathroom mirror so I'd see it every time I went that day
I've been a Colin Hay fan since his Men at Work days and have had the opportunity to see him perform solo several times. Truly, one of my favorite artists. I perform several of his songs in the "Scrubs" mini set I do. I play a 'mini-set' of songs from the TV show Scrubs. Colin and his music were featured on the show. This song was in one of the episodes and speaks to the subject I'm speaking of. What's really interesting are the mindset of the storytellers. Colin is expressing his thoughts and then he sings the words of his partner who tells him to 'open up your heart, let the light shine in' (the positive thought) and his response is the title of the song. Makes you wonder what that 'real life' really is doesn't it? Is there even a definition or is it just inner peace?
Waiting For My Real Life to Begin - Colin Hay
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EDIT: I've come realize that music for me is therapy and self help. Listening and performing allows me to get the reassurance I seek and be able to express myself and my feelings. That said, there have been times I've sought help in the form of real life therapy and meds but music has been the real life saver for me. What's your lifesaver? Grab onto it with both hands and help yourself.
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