Carnation’s New Thread - Anxiety, setbacks and tips

[Lencoboy]

Lencoboy to my knowledge, you go on about smoking a lot!
And I don't know what relevance that has on what we were talking about.
I also started this new thread for more positive stuff as my old thread went off its original path.
Although I've kept that one for various reasons. But I would like to keep this one for what it was attended.
I think you need to read what BlueIris has said in her last post about positivity.

And no, you are not de-railing the thread BlueIris, you are just responding to Lencoboy who seems to want to debate an issue irrelevant to
what we were discussing.

I admit to being the one responsible for derailing this thread and I apologise.

The main reason why I posted was because I started another thread of my own on the topic of concern and nobody replied.

But I made a mistake and once again, I apologise.

[Carnation]

Thank you Lencoboy, much appreciated.

[Carnation]

I think you do incredibly well going to work BlueIris.
I find it helps with agoraphobia if you really want to do something, even picture yourself doing it.
Also a reward helps. Going out to get something you want, whether it be a food item or a personal treat.
Can you believe if I run out of smokes I'm out like a flash, lol.
Also, don't plan anything, just go! The buildup is worse than the doing.

[Carnation]

Be aware of using negative words about yourself, even as a joke.

[BlueIris]

Agreed. Neuroplasticity is a thing - the brain perceives the things we tell ourselves as truth.

[Carnation]

That's exactly right BlueIris.
I've often stopped in my thoughts and words thinking, I shouldn't have said that.
But by noticing you do this rectifies the negativity.

[Catkins]

Sorry you're having such a rough time BI. You'll get there.

I've had a week or so where I have just been completely focused on a summative assessment for Uni. It was a presentation and was a tough one. But sitting on the back steps with barefeet has helped and really focusing on things when out with the dog has too. Watching as the blossom was opening on a beautiful tree in the churchyard has been lovely, I was almost excited to see its progress each morning.

[Carnation]

That sounds lovely catkins. Blossom trees are just pure bliss. I could stare for ages.
I'm so pleased the barefoot rejuvenation is working for you.
When I used to stay in a caravan it used to be one of things that gave me a feel good feeling.
That and stretching out on one of those long sofas.
I actually laid down on the grass a week ago and honestly felt supercharged in a good way.
We used to do this as children, why do we stop as we get older.
Sitting making daisy chains, having a picnic, tickling someone with a long piece of grass walking around in bare feet.

[BlueIris]

Being barefoot on damp grass

I started using Headspace again today and I'm determined to stick with it this time.

[Carnation]

Good one BlueIris