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    Opinions on therapy

    Hello,
    For the last couple of months I have been getting video therapy appointments through the nhs. Firstly I realise that I am in a lucky position to even get this as I know there is a big waiting list.
    Iíve seen several therapists over the years for anxiety, which comes and goes depending on life and circumstances.
    I requested more therapy sessions at the end of last year as I was struggling to do much without getting anxious and wasnít going out much on my own.
    I donít feel like I am clicking with this current therapist. I struggle to explain what I mean or why I do certain things. I know with cbt you need to do homework, but I struggle to find the time to work out what tasks I am supposed to be doing, and then if I do it my own way, itís not really counted as I didnít fill in the correct sheets that I was set. Am I being unreasonable? I had an amazing therapist a few years ago who I made so much progress with, and she helped me to realise a lot of things I didnít notice.
    Iím a very busy person so I only have limited amount of free time to be filling in various worksheets and keep track of every time I get an anxious thought (which Iíll be honest is many many times in a day) I just donít feel like Iím getting much out of the therapy, and I feel a bit like the therapist is condescending and tends to jump to conclusions about what Iím experiencing. My main issues at the moment are not going out much on my own, and having an ongoing struggle to gain weight. But in the therapy sessions they want me to tackle me to tackle my fear of being sick so I have to do things that I would avoid, like eating food going out of date and not washing my hands before eating. I donít really want to do these things and feel like they donít overly help the situation of feeling less anxious going out myself.
    Not sure if anyone will be able to have any opinions or similar experiences where the therapist doesnít really understand you or your goals/issues?
    Thanks if anyone gets this far through this post!

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    Re: Opinions on therapy

    Hi Sunflower

    Reading your post it sounds to me like your therapy sessions are more of a chore than support and help.
    As for telling you not to wash hands or eat things out of date, well I'm shocked to be honest. Both of those things would send me over the edge. Is she trying to make you sick? There are certain foods that you should never eat out of date.....chicken and pork especially. Oh my.
    I can see why you haven't clicked.
    Personally I'm not keen on video sessions. They can't see your body language and it's very impersonal. It didn't work for me. Finding a good therapist is a bit pot luck and if it's not working for you then it's best to move on.
    I had several I didn't continue with. The one I did was amazing and got me.
    As I know your history a little, I think you have to two main things going on.... Worry and feeling overwhelmed. I know there's the food issue but that's a separate thing that could be ongoing. I know you've done well with this and if you are anything like me, if other stuff in your life is going a bit haywire then it affects the weight.
    What do you feel you need right now? Support? Guidance? Reassurance? Some changes in your routine?
    Here if you need me x

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    Thanks for your reply Carnation, itís really appreciated.
    Absolutely they feel like a chore, because Iím just going through the motions rather making any real progress.
    I also found out last week I had extremely low iron, my ferritin was 8, a drop from 23 a few months ago and it should be at least over 50. So physically I just feel like a zombie most of the time. I canít remember the last time I didnít wake up feeling tired, and still sometimes get various heart related issues when Iíve done too much. The therapist thinks Iím burnt out but also says I have a balanced lifestyle, working but taking breaks for lunch and doing regular exercise. So she then says Iím burnt out because of the ocd. And that makes me then feel guilty about everything and that Iím not trying hard enough to overcome it. But honestly I think my issues stem from feeling out of control in other areas of my life.
    Iím not sure how to move forward with it, if I say Iím not clicking with the therapist I donít want to be black listed from the nhs therapy services but also how itís going at the moment feels like a waste of both of our times.

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    You won't get blacklisted if you say you don't feel it's working for you. They may even offer you a different therapist. Therapy can be tiring until you have many sessions and feel more comfortable. You might need a break from it altogether as it seems too much at present.
    Red meat for your iron. They used to give Guinness years ago to patients, especially new mums.
    Plenty of greens, otherwise you can get iron supplements.
    Remember what I said years ago, food is fuel.

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    Re: Opinions on therapy

    Carnation sorry I haven't replied to you before now. I decided to end the therapy with the therapist. I found that I got as far through as I could go with the therapist and did not have the motivation to do any of the other tasks that were set. I am not going to go out of my way to be around sick people, or not wash my hands before eating food. I am however doing my own 'exposure' type things, trying new things which weren't on my list and also pushing myself when the voice in my head says no. I never clicked with this therapist and always felt like I was doing it wrong. I struggle to follow a set path and with being so busy, I like to pick and choose what I push myself with, as the opportunity arises. An example being that I signed up to swimming lessons, I can swim but I get anxious in deep water but I really enjoy it. I go to them on my own, drive there myself, in the evenings, and last night for the first time ever I swam on my back, and dived into the pool. The feeling after the lesson was of such exhileration, more so than I've had with any therapy or medication! So I am learning to trust myself that I can do hard things, and feel good about it. The plus was I did one of those questionnaires on anxiety at the end of therapy and my scores had dropped dramatically. Not sure the therapist agreed but I certainly feel a lot more confident and optimistic than a few months ago.
    Also I'm taking my iron supplements and that is also making me feel better!

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    Re: Opinions on therapy

    I think you made the right decision sunflower.
    You can do your own exposure (within reason).
    Well done on the swimming

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