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    Very worried about husband - lung shadow.

    Hi all,
    i am posting on here to articulate my fears, because i have to be brave for my main supporter - my husband.
    Recently he had a chest xray for a very mild - but persistent- cough. The doctor wasn’t concerned, but booked the X-ray ( because my husband told her his wife was worried!) Anyway, we didnt hear anything for a week or so and i told myself it must be clear. But yesterday M got a call saying there was a shadow over his trachea and a CT scan has been recommended. She followed this on with xrays are hard to read, its most likely nothing, bla bla.

    But here is the thing.

    He has been having wheezy breathing - sometimes pronounced, sometimes unnoticeable- for YEARS. So long, in fact, that worrier me no longer worried about his strange sometimes rattly or squeaky breathing. The doctor diagnosed him a few years ago with adult onset asthma and prescribed an inhaler (which he never used because it wasn’t that bad), and we all just got on with things. 2 years ago he developed a nagging cough and i made him get an xray which was, at that time, clear. And now this.
    So i think its fairly likely, given his history, that there actually IS something going on in his trachea. His odd breathing sounds (which are intermittent) certainly sound central - ie tracheal - in their origin. So I think this is a legitimate concern, not an HA-addled one. I AM very frightened. And I AM trying not to show it. I am telling myself that since this problem has been going on for years it’s likely slow-developing. But i do think it is not unlikely the CT will show something- and what happens next (the tests etc), will be very frightening for us all. And i must brace myself to be the supporter, the calmer, the optimist.

    Thank you if you read this far. Just writing it down helps.

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    Re: Very worried about husband - lung shadow.

    I can understand what you are going through jojo
    Although I can't comment on your hubby I can tell you my mum had a chest xray and showed a lung shadow and the doctor had no idea what it was.
    Wheezing could be to do with allergies, even asthma is easily helped with a puffer.
    Try not to go down the thinking route of something serious. If he's been like it for years and healthy in other respects then it shouldn't be anything serious.
    Getting it checked out will put both your minds at rest xx

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    That is so kind of you to reply Carn. It could be asthma, let’s hope! Also it could be something in the trachea (or the thymus gland??) which is very slow growing or benign. He is a non smoker- although he did social smoke as a student. I know I shouldn’t second guess. He has a CT appointment on monday, but i am in total information-gather mode.
    What happened with your mum?
    Also, how is your poor jaw??

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    It could well be asthma or allergies. It's natural to think of possible causes but try not to be 24/7 on it, keep normality in to both of your lives. Monday is not long to wait.
    They did a scan with my mum because of breathlessness and found nothing! Even though my mum had cancer many moons ago, it was all clear.
    Thanks for asking about my jaw. I think I've found the culprit. It's the last tooth at the top but the nerve is affecting another 4 and also bottom teeth sometimes. Eating aggravates it and if I clench my jaw or grind my teeth while sleeping which wakes me up. I'm hoping the nerve will eventually settle.

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    I do understand what you are going through Jojo. I would be doing the exact same. If there is anything wrong with Mr.D, I always go into catastrophic mode. My information gathering goes into overdrive. If it’s on the internet I read it. Balancing an anxiety driven brain with rational thinking is difficult to say the least.

    Is your husband using a rational brain? Mine does and that makes me feel bad for panicking. Staying calm and not making it worse for them is, shall we say, challenging?

    Try not to over think at this stage. More than likely it will be nothing to worry about. Easy to say but probably right.

    Monday will soon be here. I can’t take your worry away, although worrying will not change anything but I DO know exactly what you’re going through. Let us know how it goes
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    Quote Originally Posted by Darksky View Post
    I do understand what you are going through Jojo. I would be doing the exact same. If there is anything wrong with Mr.D, I always go into catastrophic mode. My information gathering goes into overdrive. If it’s on the internet I read it. Balancing an anxiety driven brain with rational thinking is difficult to say the least.

    Is your husband using a rational brain? Mine does and that makes me feel bad for panicking. Staying calm and not making it worse for them is, shall we say, challenging?

    Try not to over think at this stage. More than likely it will be nothing to worry about. Easy to say but probably right.

    Monday will soon be here. I can’t take your worry away, although worrying will not change anything but I DO know exactly what you’re going through. Let us know how it goes
    Thank you so much for the reply Darksky….
    Luckily M is very calm about it and is just carrying on as normal. All my silly catastrophizing and researching is happening in private. The shadow is not in his lung, i think, but in the space between the lungs which contains various glands (thymus) and trachea…. Like you say, not long to wait. Xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carnation View Post
    It could well be asthma or allergies. It's natural to think of possible causes but try not to be 24/7 on it, keep normality in to both of your lives. Monday is not long to wait.
    They did a scan with my mum because of breathlessness and found nothing! Even though my mum had cancer many moons ago, it was all clear.
    Thanks for asking about my jaw. I think I've found the culprit. It's the last tooth at the top but the nerve is affecting another 4 and also bottom teeth sometimes. Eating aggravates it and if I clench my jaw or grind my teeth while sleeping which wakes me up. I'm hoping the nerve will eventually settle.
    So glad your mum was OK! And also that you have found the troublesome tooth. Really hope the nerve settles down without you needing a dentist - since they are so very scarce and EXPENSIVE!!

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    Hello Jojo...I think you have to stop this "information" gathering because the only valid information you will get is from the CT scan on Monday and any "research" you do will feed your own HA and not help M a bit. It's all worse case scenario speculation on your part and not a true clinical diagnosis which only a specialist can evaluate.

    Sorry to be blunt and I do appreciate how frightening this must be for you in view of your HA. Don't let the HA win though? He'll not want that before he even has the CT scan. Monday will soon be here xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by pulisa View Post
    Hello Jojo...I think you have to stop this "information" gathering because the only valid information you will get is from the CT scan on Monday and any "research" you do will feed your own HA and not help M a bit. It's all worse case scenario speculation on your part and not a true clinical diagnosis which only a specialist can evaluate.

    Sorry to be blunt and I do appreciate how frightening this must be for you in view of your HA. Don't let the HA win though? He'll not want that before he even has the CT scan. Monday will soon be here xx
    Pulisa is spot in here Jojo.

    I've seen and replied to many of your posts since I've been on the forum and you only need to re-visit your previous threads to see the pattern that's evolving. That said, I get it. This would be stressful for anyone experiencing a similar scenario but the difference is how your anxiety amplifies the situation and engages you in thoughts and behaviors that escalate the anxiety/mental aspects.

    Knowing that and taking into account all the years and experience you have in battling the dragon, I know you have it in you to stop yourself from falling into the rabbit hole and tell the dragon to back off so you can be the supportive spouse you need to be at this time.

    Positive thoughts

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    Dear Pulisa and FMP -
    THANK YOU for the sage advice as always. I am actually doing my very best to follow it and it is helping. M is carrying on as normal - apparently unconcerned- and i am taking his lead. Also, i was inspired by the princess of wale’s statement yesterday. Particularly the line about “learning to live with uncertainty ”. That is so key. It is fundamental to life and something we HA folk particularly struggle with. But uncertainty is a daily truth for us all, and we have to sit along side it and keep going.
    Like you say, anyone would be worried in this situation, but it is the HA brains desire for immediate answers that does indeed feed the dragon. I am doing my best. And thank you, so so much, again for your replies and your support. Xx

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