Darksky first off I am so sorry for the loss of your mom, all I can do is send you virtual hugs. Thank you both. I don't have any of my mom's things at all, my aunt hasn't sent what was set aside for me, I doubt she ever will, I bought the oil to use for myself, as all of us women in the family use it and we look way younger than our age, my mother in law uses it, she is 83 and looks 60. I am 51 and I have people tell me you don't look 51 I could have sworn you were early 30s. Yes it does remind me of my mom when I open it and use it, as the smell takes me back to memories, I do have the perfume and I do sniff it once in awhile, just felt like putting it on yesterday. As for her picture I did move it to the other wall, that I hardly see, in my room. I should have stated I am sad due to how I have treated myself, and I am grieving eight deaths in a year, it seems it seems a never ending cycle. I was feeling my sads last night, as I am in the downward spiral of my bipolar. It will last for a few weeks then I'll be on the high end and manic as all get out. I know you both didn't mean anything harsh by your replies, and I am grateful that you offer the suggestions and advice. Thank you both so much, am sending you both hugs.