Hi Gaff. A similar thing happened to me, i had a friend who i knew for years, we got on well, acted like two daft kids! I thought i had found a friend for life, and she said i was a friend for life. She was the only friend i had. Thought there was one problem, she never really made the effort, i was the one who had to do all the calling and texting, and it drove me angry, so i sent her a few texts telling her what i thought. So i rang her a week later, her brother told me she wasnt there, but she just didnt want to come to the phone. She was there though. It really made me angry. So we didnt speak or hear anything of each other till a 7 months later, when i decided oring her, she said she forgave me and that i was still her friend, so we said wed meet up again and that the best time to phone her again one be the week later. So i did, no anwser. So i left it there, the last time i tried to get in contact with her was in august, sent her two texts to see how she was and stuff. No reply. So from then i decided she was no longer anything to do with me, a `mere mortal` so our friendship is over. Whats even more bad is she didnt even wish me a happy 21st birthday. That was what made me decide enough was enough.
I asked a few people what they thought, some said its cos im too clingy, others said its cos of the way i am. But i disgree strongly.
She was acting strange so i did the right thing, to try and see what was going on. Dont know why that was considered to be clingy?
She started university in september and made new friends. What has made me very angry is that i asked her if she would ever forget about me when she got to uni, she said no, but it was obvious she was lying. I knew it all along.
As i said though, she is no longer my friend, there is no way of going back and if i see her i will just walk on by. She is invisible to me now. True friends are people that stick by you for years, if the rest of your life. She is not a true friend and never was, i should have been more wise. Every person should always stick by their guns and instincts, dont be afraid to speak your mind or opinion in fear of upsetting someone. I now find it hard to trust any new friendships i make and it makes me more wary of people and what they say and their promises.
It is just something you have to accept, i have had to accept it, and though its hard to let go of someone you thought was a good friend, you just have to forget them. People do turn weird and act silly but never blame it on yourself, you were doing the right thing.
And remember, its THEIR loss and NOT yours.
(Please reply to this post if you have read it. Thanks)
Reply With Quote
