like to clear some stuff up

[marcus2]

no just my opinion

[bottleblond]

OK Marcus i'm getting just a bit fed up with this mate!!

now let me explain something to YOU!

CERTAIN people are quite, CERTAIN people are talkative, CERTAIN people come in to chat and sit in the backgroud because that's what they feel comfortable doing, and CERTAIN people love to join in and have a laugh and a good old gab!!

Now if the later get together and have a good old gab then SO BE IT! it does NOT mean there is a clique, it means people are FRIENDS!!!

NOW ENOUGH OK!!!


Lisa

[eeyorelover]

It can take awhile to get to know new people whether it be online or in the 'real' world.
I would say just give it time and you will feel like you are one of the chat room regulars.
You have to understand that alot of the people who frequent chat are in there nearly everyday.
When someone new comes in sometimes they can feel like they are out of the loop but it's just that they are new and becoming friends takes time.

I would like to say that I agree that we should act like adults and have a intellegent conversation about this subject and let everyone voice their opinions without any personal attacks from anyone.
However there comes a point when you have to say 'altho I have a different point of view, let's move on and agree to disagree'.
xxx
Sandy

[chalky]

Hi All,

i've been using the Chat Room for 2 months now.
I have witnessed quiet folks,talkative folks,folks who have clearly become friends over time.The recent tragic passing of Syl showed that there was a group of people who were closer to her than others.This is not something to resent or to cause dissention.The same opportunities exist for us all-to become part of a community.
The term "clique" carries with it an implication of division within the Chat room.
I have not witnessed any clique in the Chat room.
Best wishes,
Chalky

[B happy]

it makes me sad that nyone would think that there is a clique in chat i like to talk to everyone no one has ever upset me always been kind and help me very much i am sorry ppl think there maybe a clique i hope oneday every one feels the way i do so tc all

[bottleblond]

AMEN to that !! xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[marcus2]

kazzie im not a troublemaker thats the last thing i want to be i just have an OPINION just like every one else

[louwilliams]

Jess

Firstly, may I say that you have been a member of this site for roughly 3 weeks. I think you have a cheek to start this thread after being here for such a short time and accused chat of having a "clique" and putting chat down, when it has been running very successfully for a very long time and before you joined.

The bottom line is that you feel put out because not everyone replies to or comments on everything you have to say. Maybe you are used to being in your own clique and having everyone listen to you and agree with you but in this chatroom and on this site, people have been friends for a long time before you joined. You seem to just expect everyone to stop their conversations the minute you come into chat and demand everyones attention and if you dont get it you start acting like a child and starting silly threads like this.

We all know exactly who the term "clique" is aimed at and who you are trying to cause trouble for but I really wouldnt bother. Like Lisa said, some people are chatty and talkative, some arent and actually enjoy just sitting and watching the chat scroll along without feeling the need to join in or stamp their feet until they are heard. To be honest Jess, I, as well as other members, have witnessed you being patronising, condescending and downright offensive to some members in chat-I have seen people leave when you start talking about things which some people arent comfortable with-maybe this is why you feel there is a clique? Not everyone agrees with what everyone says so maybe the reason you feel you are accusing people of ignoring you because of "the clique" is due to the fact that instead of someone telling you they disagree with something you have said, they chose to act like adults and not comment instead of getting into another row with you.

I know this will get an offensive reply from either yourself or marcus but this is my opinion and I will not be bullied into being quiet when you are attacking people in chat who have enough anxiety issues of their own without you bad mouthing them and also this site in general.

[trac67]

Ok everyone, can we not name call on the thread please as it serves no purpose.

Also the thread is being closely monitered by the admins, so we are dealing with it

Thanks

Trac xxx

[bottleblond]

Lou....Well done! that was a well said!!

Chat is a brilliant place, we can tell that just by the amount of people who use it on a regular basis. For 100 positive comment, we will always get one negative! well in my view, that fabulous statistics.

Lots a love
Lisa
xxxx