I spoke to Alice before we went in and I reassured her that it is not because she is abnormal but that we were there to ask to see a special doctor who would help us both understand and give her the answers that she doesn't have. I gave her the choice of to come in or waiting outside and I promised I would tell her everything after - at this point she got upset but she decided to come in. Anyway the doctor was very good. I started off by telling her straight away that I was there for a referral expecting to be put off but she asked why and I told her and she said it sounds very much like anxiety/panic attacks. She asked if it stopped her going or was she ok when she got there. Asked how home/school/friends are etc. Anyway she said that CBT is not recommended for children (Still don't know what that is!) but she would refer her to a child counsellor. She said that on the NHS there is a 6mth at least waiting list, or she knew a very good counsellor who deals with this privately in Brighton (Apx20mins away) I have asked her to refer to private as I don't really want Alice waiiting that long. My only concern is that she said that she would help find the underlining problem which I agree is important but will a counsellor be able to help her deal with it and help her manage it for the future. I want Alice to be moving on with this rather than raking all back through her childhood - is that the wrong way of looking at it - i'm not sure. After I told Alice that she did really well and that only people whom she choses will know and if there is anything worrying her she can always talk to me or Darren (DH).