Wrapped up in cotton wool

[tattybear]

Hi Pips

Thanks for your advise.

And I know what you mean about how it feels great to have things done for you, but that it doesnt help in the long run!

I eally apprecaite and love him for putting up with me and not complianing about having to do things, which is why I found it hard telling him how not always this is helping me and I think it did hurt him when I told him, which then made me feel guilty and down....[Ugh]

But I had to let him know that I do need to do things myself so I can get thru it and beat this....and he admitted he just wanted to proctect me which is lovely [^] but I think he now realises that I do need to do things to get thru it, no matter how little the thing may be!

Hes off at football now which I think is a good thing after out discussion! he can let of some steam and clear his head!!



Tatty B xx

[kairen]

hi tatty,

well done for at last wanting to go into that shop alone, you know he has your best interest at heart and it's nice that he care so much. Try not to feel guilty about it you cant help they way you feel either, My husband has no idea what to do when i'm like that he just looks at me, or sometimes pats my head yes seriously LOL. It's hard for them sometime to know what to do for the best, cos nine times out of ten with mine he will say the wrong thing so now he just nods, [)]

I know it's hard with friends sometimes, i used to feel like they were saying "oh my god here she comes bet she's going to start crying again"which inevitably made me cry, even though they were not thinking that, well thay said they were'nt LOL.

anyway hope it all works out take care and good luck next time with the shops xxx



kairen x

[nomorepanic]

Tatty

Perhaps he is protecting you and knows that it was hard for you and now he needs to know that you want to try and do it.

Just sit down and explain this to him and ask him to positively encourage you to go in the shop rather than sitting in the car.

Don't alienate him, however, as you still need his advice. Just say something like "I want to do it but will you come with me or support me when I do it".

I am sure he will be thrilled that you want to progress on.

He just loves you and cares and I am sure you can work through this.

Good luck.

Nicola

[seh1980]

hi Tatty,

It could be that your bfriend is still getting used to the idea of you suffering from panic attacks. I'm sure that once he has a bit more experience with it, he will understand it a lot more and know how to react in each situation.

Sarah

[vernon]

Hi Tatty. I get the same with my wife she is ever so loving and caring, Its just when we get the impuls to do something its so hard to understand. I have panic anxiety but my agrophobia seems much better now. and if i decide to go somewhere my wife always says hang on i will come with you. but sometimes out of the blue i want to do it myself. I understand becouse I am also registered blind but feel i must do some things alone. take care. Vernon

[sal]

Hi Tatty

It is nice to know that he loves and cares about you so much and want to protects you but you have to talk to him about it and explain that when you feel a confident moment that you use it to your best advantage and for him to let you know that he is in the side wings waiting to help you if you struggle.

It will take time for both of you to judge how much each other should be doing but i am sure if you keep talking it will work out fine.

Love Sal xx


Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.

[pips]

Hi Tatty,

That's really sweet of him wanting to protect you and I'm glad you were able to have a talk with him. Try not to feel guilty though I know it's difficult (guilts my middle name LOL) He will respect you for it though I'm sure.

Take care,

Love PIP'S XX

[tattybear]

Hi everyone :-)

Hope youve all had a good easter weekend?

Thanks for al your advice and support. We did have a good chat about how we each feel so I think we both understand each other a bit more (i think!...he prob still thinks im on another planet!! ).

Had easter sunday at my mums with a lot of family, so it was quite nosiy and i got really tight chested which was horrible, but i just took my self away outside to get some air and calm down and i was ok after a bit. Havnt felt that bad before esp when Im with my family, but I suppose I cant always predict when im going to have an attack.



Tatty B xx

[sal]

Hi Tatty

Would be so easy if you could predict it but we cant. Take it as it comes and take on board the fact that he loves you and wants to protect you. He is only trying to help through his lack of understanding.

Pleased you have talked and hope you carry on talking. It isnt a fault loving you he just now needs to understand you.

Love Sal xx


Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.

[tracyp584]

Hey Tatty,

Glad to hear you had another good chat with your boyf,hope you can build on this and with his support start tackling those shops!

tracy x x