Re: dealing with others...
Hi Mee
Hope you are okay .
Interesting topic . I think non-verbal 'vibes' tell a story don't they . I kinda work on a gut instinct basis with people , but I am not always right , but usually am . You know .....first impressions sorta thing .
I find it difficult to maintain eye contact , but more with people I know really well ....what the heck is that all about , I really don't know ???
I particularly wanted to say something about having people around you who are loud and self confident cos they take the focus off you . Well , I can be fairly loud and appear calm and confident around others . Appear being the operative word here . What I am trying to say is that although I behave in this way around groups of people I know less well , for eg in the school yard with the other parents (most crowded place I go cos I HAVE too lol) .......... sorry going off point ....again ! Basically I come across to people as this confident person but it's a learnt behaviour (through ex career mainly) ...............and the more nervous , inferior and anxious I feel , the more confident I appear on the 'surface' if u see wot I mean .
I share this cos it may help u look at things a litle differently , that is to say the people you feel more comfortable around cos they stand out more and enable u to relax more ......... may be just like me . Poor people lol .
I also sometimes pick up on others that feel like me in groups etc , and I hate to think of them feeling anxious too , so this is another reason I put on this pretend mask/act/front............to relieve their anxiety by taking the pressure off them ! Blimey didn't know I was gonna end up getting THIS deep . I mention this cos of what you say about others being quiet around u , they r feeling like you are .... maybe ?Perhaps that may help u feel less uncomfortable ....... that they r in the same boat kinda thing . I hope this is the kinda feedback u was looking for Mee , if not I am booking the next flight to Mexico ... oh hang on ............ I have a fear of flying .
Good Post Mate
Toodle pip
Hope xx
Last edited by Hope 2; 15-04-08 at 11:39.
Reason: being fussy about spelinghsh
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