My Isolation:
What is least accepted by other people and friends? Perhaps admitting your gay or Lesbian, or maybe admitting your in love with a woman half your age? These things are frowned upon by certain people, depending on their personal views. However unless there is predudice these things do not cause pain. So what does cause pain? You may get beaten up and mugged in the street on a dark night. That would cause a lot of pain. However you would be able to talk about the experience to friends, and seek sympathy. But what if you are just depressed or anxious and there is no cause behind it?
What if you cannot say you were abused as a child or were raped or you lost a dear one. What if you have had an easy life, a great childhood, are fit, healthy and well educated? Can you still get sympathy? Maybe I dont get sympathy because people cannot see there is anything wrong. If I had a plaster cast on my leg, people would ask me what happened and if there is anything they could do for me. When im in the house I may be wearing holey jeans and have 3 days worth of stubble, but before I go out I spend 60 minutes in the bathroom getting freshened up after my 3 days spent in the house. I step into my best clothes that I ironed the night before, gel my hair and and smother myself in expensive aftershave. I need to do this just to gain some self worth. I talk to people for as long as I can manage, about what they want to hear about. If I havn't done anything, I make something up. Plastering on a smile to hide my emotions within. Perhaps thats why I dont get the sympathy? Noone can tell I'm ill. On the other hand have I got any other choice? What if I were to go to the local and say im feeling depressed. What if they asked me why, and I just told them its an mental illness. What if I told my friends I had not been doing anything because I had been sleeping in till 5pm most days, or the reason I was going home was through a panic attack? Supposed I went out as a scruff and told them that with a long face. I can allready picture getting no support, and perhaps even being gossiped about after I left.
Not even friends seem to want to take it on board or make any effort to listen. When I have tried to explain im ill I get, ''Don't worry about me, just take care of yourself''. Or I get, ''I got to go now but promise me you will get better.'' At the very best I get patronised and spoken to like a baby. ''Oh im really sorry darling, I wish I could give you a big hug''. But not one friend offers to visit me, or even offers to go out somewhere close to where I live so its less far for me to travel. Because of this I spend much of my time on the internet, making me even more isolated from the real society. Sometimes its the only place where I will find people to talk sincere to.