Originally Posted by
pooh
Hi Phil!
I used to feel the need to 'confess' all as well. I used to refer to it as my anxiety induced social tourettes syndrome. I had terrible compulsions to say anything and everything in my head, to whoever,wherever and whenever.
As you know anxiety can generate an amazing amount of bizzare thoughts from the scarey to the surreal, and we also tend to become obsessed with it to.
If you can, try to relax a little and remember that you may suffer from anxiety but it doesn't define you as a person. I am sure there is much more to you than Phil the anxiety sufferer. for example, i suffer from depression anxiety and panic disorder but i am also a mother, sister, daughter, partner, employee, friend who enjoys cycling reading, painting drawing, my job, meeting new people dancing and having a laugh.
If you can take up activities to widen what you have to talk about. Not only is it great at reducing anxiety( in terms of fitness, meeting new people), it means you are doing things that during conversation give you something else to talk about. Remember to ask whats happening in other peoples lives too and any girl worth her salt will stick by you but no one has to know anything much about your history other than what you want to tell them.
Learning to accept that anxiety is part of who you are too can also go towards reducing it. I mean that it stops becoming all consuming. I got to a point when i would be on the phone chatting to whoever about my problems and i would stop mid sentence and say' you know what I cannot listen to the sound of my own voice going on about this anymore. I am bored to tears with it all' lol
Don't know if any of this has helped phil. I hope so!?
take care
Lynne