I have an online friend. Something always seems to be bothering me and getting me down about this 'friendship' yet i am totally obsessed with the guy and the idea of having a great offline friendship with him. He knows i want to meet offline and he insists we will meet when he is ready. It's been over 3 years now that we've known each other and i think if we were going to meet we would have by now. He has a myspace page which is set to private and i am not allowed to be on his friends list and see the page. The reason for this is that he has a girl he speaks to who he is obsessed with the way i am with him and he uses it to speak to her. He doesn't know that i know this and that i've seen her myspace profile so he continues to lie to me. Now part of the reason why he isn't ready to meet he claims is because he is not confident enough to meet people yet having been housebound apparently with agoraphobia for a number of years. But he is getting out more now and has met up with the girl once. on a message on her myspace wall he speaks about meeting her again when he gets his college date through. I think this means that he plans on going to a college near her and moving up there to be near her to 'hang out'
This is all none of my business perhaps BUT the thing that is making me angry is the lying that seems to be happening here, or at least the not giving me the whole story. He tells me he isn't ready to meet people yet but at the sametime he is making plans to meet up with someone else and to attend college. I wonder what he would say if i told him i have seen these posts. After all this time we been friends i feel i deserve some honesty from him. If he wants to meet other people that is his business but if he never intends to meet me he should be honest and tell me not keep stringing me along when he knows how important it is to me. I am wondering what he is getting out of all this. But it seems clearer than ever now that he has little regard for my feelings about anything and that he doesn't want to be honest with me. Is it time for me to move on?