Lonely and tring to make friends

[stinger007]

Ello,

I'm the new boy and I never really posted on forums so sorry if this doesn't make sence or it's has spelling mistakes and stuff.

I'm 29 and have quite a good life the only problem is i don't really have any friends. I mean i have 1 or 2 but they have there own lives so i tend to spend a lot of time on my own. I have recentley come out of a long relationship which has made things even worse and i've been raking my head as to which direction to take my life.

It's always been hard for me to make really close friends because of my anxiety (somthing which i have always kept private) and over the last 3 months or so i've felt very sort of distant and insolated from the world. Even at work I feel like i'm reading a script or somthing, just sort of going through the motions but i'm not there.

thanks for reading

[marie1974]

hi and welcome you will meet loads of lovely new friends here and get lots of advice and support xxxxxxxxxx

[chalky]

Hi Stinger,

Welcome to the Forum.



You will get loads of support and advice here.
Best wishes,
Chalky

[stinger007]

thanks donna01 thats what i'm hoping - currenly board has hell wacthing t.v

[kaz79]

Hiya

[kaz79]

Sorry, welcome. Were all in the same boat here

[milly jones]

hi stinger,

i find making and keeping friends very difficult too.

ppl on nmp are very supportive and will help with any difficulties u have,

i find the chatroom useful as face to face conversations in social situations are most difficult, look forward to perhaps meeting u there, millyx

[popsy]

Stinger.
I hope you find this site as friendly and helpful as i do.

You describe something which i suffer from at times when you feel distant from the world and not part of it. Its an anxiety symtom which apparently occurs as the bodys defense to stop you from feeling anymore anxiety, its a normal response so please try not to let it bother you too much, i find if i ignore it it lifts, but i do no how distressing it can be i promise!!!
I think its called depersonalisation or something!
Have a look in the main menu i think its under symtoms.
Anyway, hello again and welcome to the site, your never alone here as we are all in the same boat, keep posting!
C x

PS I would really recommend www.moodgym.com as a good online CBT (free) course for anxiety/depression.

[stuart39]

when you get down to the nitty gritty stinger most people can only say hand on heart that they have 1, 2 or 3 really good friends so dont feel that youre any different on that score. Like people say its when times are hard that you find out who your real friends are. cool mate.
maybe a bunch of us could meet for a bit of snooker, a beer or something.....

[veebee]

Hi, welcome to the site - I'm sure you'll find it really useful. Everyone is really friendly and will help when it's tough.

Good to talk to you!