We have just had the most awful 3 weeks. My daughter, Hannah, has been bullied by text messages and phone calls, by a girl from her school who also lives in the next road to us.
This girl wanted to beat Hannah up, called her some horrible names.
Hannah wouldn't go out of the house on her own, sat in her room for hours on end, it broke my heart.
On the Monday, first day back at school, me and hubby went to see her Head of House who totally didn't want to know. Hannah wasn't at school, she wouldn't go, wanted us to move house and to move her to another school.
On the Tuesday, my brave daughter said that she must go back to school. I went off to work not knowing what would be happening to her at school.
She came home and said that the Ed Psychologist had her and the bully in
and talked to them about everything apart from their argument.
So, I phoned the Head teacher and told him all that had happened, complained about the Head of House's attitude, and told him I wanted it sorted.
Friday Hannah and the bully had a meeting with the Head of House and it was all thrashed out. The Head of House even phoned me at work to tell me how it had gone.
The bully has been warned off and we have had no more text or phone messages.
The effects though are going to be long lasting. The extended family, grandparents, aunties even my own friends, have all phoned me everyday to see how Hannah was and how things were going. They all love her as much as me and hubby do and it upset everyone so much to see what she was going through.
My anxiety and depression are awful too. Even though it is Saturday I didn't want to be bothered to get out of bed today and have just mooched around the house feeling so low.
Hubby has had a 3 day headache and has been worried out of his mind about her.
And Hannah? Her OCD had been dreadful, the touching things a number of times, doing rituals. repeating things, well, it's all gone off the scale at the moment. She has changed over the last few weeks. She is crying a lot of the time, her temper is dreadful, she is just so down.
I have had 2 of her school friends round today. They've had pizza and are watching DVD's in her room. I'm hoping that she will gradually start to feel better, hoping that we can all start to relax a bit more.
Until it happens to YOUR child, you have no idea what an effect bullying has on the whole family and indeed the extended family. When the child who is being bullied also has mental health problems, it makes it all the more difficult to deal with.
I want Hannah to be happy, I want to hear her laughing again, to go to school without being scared, to not spend hours in her room on her own. I want her to be a carefree child once again.
I just hope that it really has been sorted and that we can get on with living again. I hope that bullies can one day think before they wreck peoples lives, put themselves in the place of the victim. No one deserves to have their lives affected so badly by the actions of others.
Kate x
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