Re: How can I help my friend?
Hmmm... try not to take her comments personally. When she makes a hurtful comment, stop her and ask her immediately WHY she says/thinks that and if it is really necessary for her to say those things. Try to remain calm & objective and not take it to heart.
It may be that she is unaware of what she is saying or how it is 'coming out'. It may be that she is simply hurt and lashing out at you because you are her best friend and someone she feels she can take out some of her own pain on. It may be that she feels guilty at 'holding you back' and thinks that if she pushes you away, you will be able to get on with your own life.
Explain to her that you are her friend, and you want to remain her friend and be there for her, but that you find those personal comments hurtful and unnecessary.
Another thought.... has anything recently changed with either of you? ie, have you told her that you are interested in a guy or got a promotion, or anything that she may feel inferior by or 'threatened' by?
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