hi
I apologise that this is long!
I have suffered with anxiety in the past which affected me alot after my second child was born. I couldnt leave the house without havnig a panic attack, I would have a panic attack anytime I got too tired, or even if I was hot at one point I was having 2 or 3 panic attacks in one day.I was totally unable to do anything but at the same time I became totally obbsessed with routines, so I would make sure that things were don eat exactly the same time each day. even If i was say 10 minutes laet doing the hoovering I would end up in a major panic feeling like I was gasping for breath etc.
I did go to the doctors about it a number of times for the first few times I saw a male doctor who basically told me to relac and then went on to tell me that my blood pressure was way too high still (I had preeclampsia with my son) and put me and two seprerate blood pressure drugs which made me feel very unwell and of course panicked me even more.
when my son was about a year I saw a female doctor who at least took things more seriously but kept asking me WHY? WHY/? do i feel anxious especially since it is ALOT worse in the evenings she seemed to expect me to have a proper reason for being anxious which I dont - I knwo it is stupid, I have two healthy great children I have a fantastic supportive husband, a house we are not short of money etc I felt almost guilty that I was anxious after seeing her. she did send me to a counsellor for 6 weeks, bur again that didnt make any difference except that Iw ould get panic attacks from having to leave the house and go to the counsellor. the counsellor taught some ways to change what I ws thinking but I have found that although this works with limited things in the day , in the evening I am just totally overwhelemd and I cant think about things like that.
however, very slowly since then I have really tried very hard to do little things to help myself. At first I stuck very strictly to my routines but I would do things like just go out and sit in the garden which I couldnt before. It got to the point a few months ago where I hadnt had a proper panic attack in months and I was even able to do things out of routine etc without too much problem.
Then I found out I was pregnant. I am very pleased in some ways, I have always loved being a mum even when things were at their worst and I love the though of another little one in the house. BUT the last few weeks I have been finding things are getting out of control again, I have not been going out, when I do go out I feel faint, my legs feel shaky and I honestly feel like crying and running home. even taking my daughter the 5 minute walk to her nursery is very hard for me. In the days I have to sit down to try and relax after doing even the simplest of things, because even after say putting in a load of washing I feel like my heart is racing and I feel faint and shaky.
But the worst part is that in the evening I just feel like I have to hide away in bed as soon as my kids are in bed (they go to bed at 6) I force some dinner donw because by this time I am feeling shaky and dizzy etc and then basically run upstairs to hide away in bed. then the rest of the evening is just miserable.
everything is falling apart because I cant seem to hold things together, I haver no routine anymore, washing isnt done m only very basic tidyning is done and I feel horrible
none of the things I used to do to cope work and reading this I am just thinking well come on then just get up and do it - but I just cant.
I dont know what to do - the doctors just dont seem to be able to help and I really feel terrified. with both of my previous pregnancies I had complications that meant that I was admitted to hosptial multiple times from abour 24 weeks onwards and at the moment if that happened I just couldnt cope.
I dont really know anyone aorund here since we moved and all of my family are dead. I just dont knwo what to do
does nayone have any suggestions on how to cope with this
thanks
sophie