Am I Being 2 Over Sensitive ...?????

[titchjd]

Hiya folks me again .

well as many of u know I am bridesmaid in Nov it has been such an issue for me becus of my anxiety /agoraphobia etc.

well its hen night sat and Im making the big step of going wahhhh.
I havent been able 2 do much with the bride as had breakdown in June but Im much better now ....
Anyway went on Facebook 2 nyt and there is all messages off the other people going talking about what they have planned for her and I dont know a thing about it ...no 1 has told me ....I just feel that Im being left out because of my anxiety that they see me different .......

Just becus I sufer doesnt mean I can't have a laff and help plan stuff .
Its upset me and feel like now I wont feel welcome even though Im bridesmaid .



am I being over sensitive ?????

I just feel left out big time all becus I have anxiety x

Thanx folks xx

Titchjd x

[marie1974]

hello hunnybun, i dont think u are being over sensitive, i would feel the same, infact i prob would feel like not bothering lol.

i feel that if these people r your mates and stuff they should include u and sympathise with u after wot u been through and not leave u out hun.

hugs matey. xxx

[titchjd]

Thanx m8y .xxx

see the thing is I dont know any of them well I know 1 as shes our hairdreser but they dont know each other either we are all new 2 each other but I know My m8 has been talking about me and my issues 2 her other m8s so just feel bit weird .....i know it sound horrible but will be glad when its all over m8 its just causin me 2 much stress with everything else thats goin on in my life at mo I want it over and dun with x


Hugs 2 u m8y x
Thanx

[marie1974]

yes i can understand why u feel like u do esp with them all discussing u kind of, it would make me feel awful.

well if u feel u ave to do it cos of your daughter etc then go with head held high and feck anyone who wants to bitch or make comments or wotever, u will know that u have done it for u and your little girl matey.

hugs xxxx

[Oceanblue]

Thanx m8y .xxx

see the thing is I dont know any of them well I know 1 as shes our hairdreser but they dont know each other either we are all new 2 each other but I know My m8 has been talking about me and my issues 2 her other m8s so just feel bit weird .....i know it sound horrible but will be glad when its all over m8 its just causin me 2 much stress with everything else thats goin on in my life at mo I want it over and dun with x


Hugs 2 u m8y x
Thanx

First, if your mates have been planning things without you knowing anything about it, then yep,.. I too would feel upset by this.

But then you mentioned that you know just 1 and the fact that you said, you know that she has been talking about you to her other mates. Do you know for sure that she has been talking about you to others ?

It's so hard when we feel low and suffering with anxiety as our perceptions are so very different.

I really do hope that this isn't the case, that would be just horrible.

Take good care

[titchjd]

Thanx every1 for replies .

Yes I do know that my m8 has been talking about me reg anxiety etc as my friend has told me ...I asked her round the other day as she was being distant and she sed shed been saying 2 people about how shes gna be annoyed if I dont go 2 hen do and would tell me 2 forget everything if I cant even try 2 go 2 hen nyt .

The thing is the other friends who are planning the things dont know each other either they have been talking on FB .

I do agree thatwhen we are as anxious as me that everything seems more than it prob is ......so Like Donna says Im gna do this 4 me and go with head held high and 4get every1 else x

Just wished my friend understood my condition more but shes doesnt x

thanx folks x

[marie1974]

awww good on ya matey, u just concentrate on u and your gorgeous little girl, forget anyone else is there, even the bride, infact u can picture u as the bride instead pmsl.

forget the bride, here comes me the fabulous titch in my flowing gown hehe. just make sure u dont have your bright pink thong stuck to back of your dress matey.

u r gonna b just fine hun xxx

[janeybaby25]

after the wedding (or before if you think she has time) could you maybe print some stuff of net about anxiety & give it to your mate to read? It might help her understand a little bit more about what you are going through. If she is your mate & you are close enough for you to be her bridesmaid you would think she would want to understand what you are going through.

when is the wedding? have you been a bridesmaid before? I was one about 2 years ago, I was sooooooooooo nervous walking down the alise but I loved it really, getting dolled up & having my hair done & wearing a beautiful dress. When I am feeling anxious in a situation such as a wedding, I just concentrate on what is happening & seeing how happy the couple look and everyone having a wonderful time. It helps me push the anxious thoughts out of my head & get on with it. I hope you mange it all ok. xxx

[bottleblond]

Hi Titch

I would probably feel the same as you under the circumstances huni.
Sometimes because we don't get out as much as the others to socialise, we tend to get overlooked! Don't take it to heart mate because it's maybe not intentional.

You go to this hen night, let your hair down, have a ball and show em gal.

Loads of love to you
Lisa
xxxxx