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[honeybee3939]

i got someone who takes care of me which cant be a good thong for my anxiety

Phil this is where i went wrong in the many years i suffered with agorophobia, my family caring for me (and i know they did there best)but they didnt do me any favours what so ever looking back at it now. it was me that needed to get out and do things so i could build up courage and thats what i eventually did. I started going out late at night when it was quiet and there was no one about. It took me months to pluck up the courage to even go into the shop 100 metres away for a pint of milk, but once i had done it the feeling was unbelieveable that i had achieved something so big, something that most people take for granted.
What i am trying to say Phil is that you have to try and help yourself hun, its bloody hard though when you are so afraid of the outside world and the panic that comes with it! But it can be done i promise you, just little steps at a time. I never thought i would get to where i am today, i still have the odd blips of panic but nothing as bad as it used to be.

I wish you good luck.

Andrea
xxxxx

[lesleya]

Thanks for that phil. I dont know why your gp dismissed your dog dying and your rash. I dont think doctors understand everything..and if they cant label or associate something like a rash with an allergy just for example then they tend to close their minds to looking for another cause.
When i was 21 my fiancee dropped down dead and 2 days later i got the most horrible red lumpy rash...head to toe...mustve looked a fright. I had hardly touched a thing to eat or drink...so couldnt have been that the doctor said, so he told me that he thought it was most likey my bodies way of reacting to shock! and that everyones body has their own way of coping with it! I also remember a friend of my mum a neighbour of ours yrs ago went totally blind for 3 weeks..no medical reason..nothing, and they put that down to stress too??
I think you maybe a bit hard on yourself phil and expect too much of yourself in as much as your body should heal automatically. Its not always able to do it on its own and sometimes needs a little push start to get back to normal.
I wish you well and hope you find a way to work out your anxiety.
Sorry for the long winded answer...
Take care

[Yvonne]

Right so the Ferraris are looked at. Now that's no good - sell one and get a good hypnotherapist to hypnotise you into taking meds! Lol. I wonder if Derren Brown could help you.

Phil Iknow about this sickness phobia of yours because we've talked about it before - but you remember what my therapist said to me when I said I fear I might cry - she says just cry. Could you apply that technique to yourself - like be sick and sod the world.

I understand your fear of medication, it's a fear the same as any other and you don't need more fear. However, don't we all get to a stage where we think that we would do almost anything to feel better? Some people go into hospital to get onto the meds. Would you be up for that? You see, if I thought that a med may help I would take it myself. However, I do sympathise you know that.

You didn't let me know whether you're wealthy enough to send me for super duper treatment somewhere!!!!!!!!!!!! Lol. ....

[kate]

I dont wish to offend but i am a realist,i see people posting on here having a go at my words who can go to work,socialise etc,to me you are not in the same boat as i cant do any of that so will say i am a more genuine case of a panic disorder

That is the only part of your post that annoyed me. People that manage to go out to work can most definately be as much of a genuine case. What you have to realise is that a lot of people have no choice but to go out to work everyday, they would literally go under financially if they didn't.

But, just as you feel sick on the occasions that you have driven your cars, do you not think that these people that are going off to work don't also feel sick/panicky etc? I know I certainly did in the past. I also panicked getting to work, panicked at work and panicked when home from work.

The thing is, some of us NEED to keep going with the normal everyday routines, as much as it kills us to do so. And guess what? It actually doesn't kill us and, 25 years down the line from my first PA, I'm still here to tell the tale!

It is definately the fact that you don't NEED to work, go out, drive etc that is keeping you in the "my anxiety is worse than anyone elses so there is no way I can do anything about it" frame of mind.

So, please, before thinking you are a more genuine case than someone else, consider what they most probably are going through every single day just to try and carry on working in order for them to pay their bills.

Kate